Breaking up is never exactly easy, especially if you've been together for a long time or you really thought you had a future ahead of you. However, it doesn't have to be the horrendous cliche as portrayed in so many chick flicks and daytime dramas, leaving you a crying ice cream eating wreck or a bitter ex completely blinded by bitterness either.
Here are some simple tips to help you make your breakup as easy and drama-free as it can possibly be:
Do It Right
The first and most important step to ensuring that you have a good break up is by taking responsibility and doing it right in the first place. Don't be tempted to take the coward's way out and end a relationship by text, email or Facebook, and if you know that it's over, don't be tempted to draw it out with trial separations or maybes. Obviously, a trial separation can be good if you're unsure of your future together, but otherwise be direct, honest, open and make it final. Get help with divorce from a counselor, and ideally a lawyer, as soon as possible if you're married and try to keep things amicable. The more grown up you behave from the beginning, the easier your break up will be over the long-term.
Cry it Out
You've just broken up with someone who probably meant a great deal to you, at least for a while; perhaps it was someone you even loved. So, although you don't want to fall into a pit of despair of becoming that cliched girl who spends her nights crying into her pillow over a failed romance if you feel sad and you want to cry, do it! Let your grief flow freely in those first few days post-break up, and you'll undoubtedly feel a whole lot better for it and get back on track sooner than those stoic types who try to keep it all in!
Don't Try to Get Him Back
If you are the dumpee rather than the dumper, it is very important that you don't try to get him back by any means necessary. Spending your time coming up with schemes to draw him back in when he's made his feelings clear will only prolong the pain and cause you to lose more of your life to a lost cause.
Keep the Drama Off Social Media
Unfriend Him
Once you've broken up, it can be tempting to remain friends with your ex on social media sites like Facebook and Instagram. This is usually a bad idea, at least in the early days of your breakup because one or both of you may be tempted to keep tabs on the other via Facebook, leading to a whole host of negative emotions like jealousy, regret and anger. You might think that you're a grown up and you should be able to stay friends with an ex after you've called it quits, and maybe you can, but probably not on the likes of Facebook which have caused so may post-breakup problems for so many people over the years. While you're unfriending him, you might want to delete his number from your cell phone to avoid any embarrassing drunken incidents too!
Hang Out with Friends
Start Working Out
Find Yourself
Have Some Fun with Someone New
This certainly isn't for everyone, but for a lot of people experiencing breakup, getting right back on the horse and going on a few dates with new, interesting people can be a great way to put some distance between themselves and their exes and enjoy being single. Obviously, if you do this, you should make sure that anyone you date knows that you aren't looking for anything serious (unless you are) - the last thing you want to do is use someone or end up giving them the wrong impression - but it can really help you to realize that there really are plenty more fish in the sea, and many of them are more suited to you that your last catch.
Take Things Slow
Read Trashy Romance Novels
Again, this doesn't work for everyone, and it can make some women feel worse, but a lot of heartbroken ladies get a lot of comfort and a renewed hope for the future by reading romance novels where the hero is dashing and brave, and the heroine has a happy ending.
Don't Blame Yourself
Try Meditation
See a Therapist
Everyone is different and what works to make a breakup easier for one person may not work for another, but hopefully there are enough good suggestions here that you will at least be able to use some of them to help your breakup be as easy as it can possibly be.
