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A Facelift, a Meltdown, and Needing Your Advice.

By Samantha Curtis @hooahandhiccups
OH EM GEE. Guys, seriously, I don't think I've ever been more obsessed with anything than I am with my new blog design. Marquis from Simply Clarke is unreal. She was so quick, knew exactly what I wanted (somehow) and couldn't have done a better job. I am so grateful to have such an amazing friend and now blog designer! If you're in the market for a new blog, this girl is YOUR girl! 
A facelift, a meltdown, and needing your advice.
In other news, I've been having a bit of a meltdown recently. After Z and I got married, I quit my job to move with him to New York where he we received orders. Although I was so over the previous job I was doing, I wasn't over the fact that I was no longer employed. This was really hard for me to accept, mostly due to my extreme need to be in control and feed my independent tendencies. 
 I love being a stay-at-home mommy and wife, don't get me wrong, but I can't help but feel like I'm not living up to my full potential. I went to college, I worked my butt off for my Bachelor's degree and I pictured myself in a different light. 

A facelift, a meltdown, and needing your advice.


I can't pin down a moment in my life when a light bulb clicked and I knew exactly what I wanted to do. I thought I wanted to be a career woman but then I thought I would be okay with being a woman with a career instead. When I think of career women, I think of a woman who travels, attends happy hours, lives in the city, and is super duper fancy. Like the ladies in Sex and the City. They're career women. A woman with a career? She does the professional thing as well as the family thing; in my opinion, the best of both worlds. 

But as a military spouse, a life like that is extremely difficult and near impossible. Sure there are women who do it, but more often than not, military wives don't work and if they do, it's not a career. Because of this, we've received such a terrible stigma. We just stay home, pop out babies, and live off the government. Right? Wrong. 

Most of us don't work for a few reasons. 

1. We're relocated to a location where the nearest big city is hundreds of miles away. A commute like that is extremely inconvenient. 

2. The jobs we can get near us? Food and retail. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with working in food or retail, however there is something wrong with working weekends and nights when we don't see our husbands very often. I've been lucky enough to have my husband home for over a year now, but soon enough, he will be leaving for months again. Sure I would bite the bullet if I had to, but spending quality time with my family is more important right now. 

3. We're never in one place long enough. The usual dwell time is two to three years but that's never guaranteed. Throw in deployments, trainings, etc and you never know where you're going to be and when. Sure, a ton of people stay put when their spouses leave, but for me, I find it easier to be surrounded by family and friends for the emotional support in the absence of my husband. 

I know what you're thinking, stop complaining and get a job. And if I could, I would. I just haven't found a job that I LOVE and that I would be willing to make sacrifices for. And on top of that, I've been "preparing to leave" since November when my husband decided he was going to change jobs within in the army. How could I have applied for a job when I thought I was leaving? 

So my question for all of you is this; after getting to know me on my blog, what do you think I would be good at? What types of jobs could you see me pursuing, given the circumstances? Sure there are a ton of independent businesses (I actually just signed on as a Mary Kay Consultant), but what is something you can see me doing and genuinely enjoying and succeeding?

I love writing. 
I love social media. 
I love interacting with others. 
I love shopping. 
I love planning. 

Ready, set, go... please give me your ideas!

A facelift, a meltdown, and needing your advice.
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