I apologize for the lack of video this week, but I have a cold and am a little too stuffed up to shoot a vid.
As you know, I have a black lab named Charlie. The very best thing about being sick is having a dog nearby to lie next to you. It’s amazing how dogs can sense when you’re feeling sick and know just how to comfort you. My dog is typically wild and mischievous, but this week he has been surprisingly well behaved. He can sense that my energy is low, so he lies patiently by my side and gives me regular licks across the face.
This has got me thinking…
Humans have a similar intuition about others. People, as well as dogs, can always sense when you’re not yourself.
Note to self: No matter how much you try, you really can’t fool the people around you. Your energy speaks volumes and people will always pick up on it.
It is important to be real and genuine because people have a bit of a 6th sense for phoniness.
Being truly yourself and honest about your feelings is one of the most difficult skills to master, but one of the most crucial.
My stepdad once told me when I was in middle school (you know, middle school, the single most insecure, terrifying time in every kid’s life, wrought with acne, cruel peers, and the fear that your body will awkward and ill-proportioned for eternity), he told me that part of growing up was becoming the same person in all areas of your life. So, whether you’re at school, with your parents, with your grandparents, at church, out with your friends, or during a volleyball game, you always behave the same. Your language, your actions and your beliefs are all consistent.
This has always stuck with me, and I know it will be one of the most important lessons I teach my children someday.
An enormous level of comfort, confidence and grace comes with the acceptance of who you are. Being able to be absolutely yourself in all situations will bring you incredible contentment and peace.
In business, I see a lot of people create their “business self”. They portray characteristics they believe a successful businessperson should have, but aren’t necessarily true to themselves. If you’re introverted, be introverted. If you like to give hugs instead of handshakes, do it. If you like your wild polka-dot tie, wear it. People will appreciate you for your authenticity, your honesty, and your deep sense of comfort and acceptance of yourself. If you want to make an impact on the world, be yourself in every situation you approach.
Sometimes we try so hard to be what we should be, that we forget to just be happy with who we are. So, get out there and hug your clients in your funky tie, they’ll love you for it.
