Remy Kelvin
Grief and Loss are two of the first things that a person can find when tragedy occurs. In fact, God uses them to protect us from the devastation. To illustrate, consider an automobile cushions. They are designed to cushion the vehicle from unexpected bumps in the road. Without them, the car would fall apart by violent shocks encountered during his travels. People are often the same way. We are traveling on the road of life, and most of the time we are not expecting bumps or potholes. So when suddenly appear, we are not ready for them.
5 Stages of Grief
Losing someone or something you love or care about is deeply painful. You can experience all kinds of difficult emotions and can feel the pain and sorrow you are experiencing will never give up. These are normal reactions to a significant loss. But while there is no right or wrong way to mourn, there are healthy ways to cope with the pain over time, can renew you and allow you to move forward.
Denial
This stage includes feelings of shock, numbness and disbelief. When it comes to the loss of the first, most of us have a hard time believing "this is really happening." We're not denying that death or loss has occurred in reality, but rather, it's a sense of, "I just can not believe this person I love is not going to walk through that door anymore." Yet the feelings of this stage also protect us. If we were to take all the emotion associated with loss immediately, it would be too overwhelming, [Read: Self Improvement Tips For Better Relationships]. Instead, our body and mind have a little time to adjust to the way things are now without the deceased. Part of the stage of "denial" is to tell our story over and over again, one of the best ways to deal with the trauma, and also a way for us to make it real. Finally, we can begin to ask questions such as, "How did this happen" or "Why?" This is a sign that we are moving out of the denial phase and in the process of feeling and healing.
Anger
As the masking effects of denial and isolation begin to wear, reality and its pain re-emerge. We are not ready. The intense emotion is deflected from our vulnerable core, redirected and expressed instead as anger. Anger may be directed at inanimate objects, complete strangers, friends or family. Anger may be directed at our dying or deceased loved one. Rationally, we know that the person is not to blame. Emotionally, however, we may resent the person for causing us pain or for leaving us. We feel guilty for being angry, and this makes us more angry. [Read: How can Anger Affect Our Social Life]. The doctor who diagnosed the illness and was unable to cure the disease could become a convenient target. Health professionals deal with death and dying every day. That does not make them immune to the suffering of their patients or for those who suffer from them.
Do not hesitate to ask your doctor to give you extra time or to explain again the details of the illness of their loved one. Arrange a special appointment or ask that you call at the end of your day. Ask your questions clear about the diagnosis and treatment responses. Understand the options available to you. Take your time.
Bargaining
The third stage of grief is bargaining. This is when the bereaved are coming to the world to make the pain go away. Actually, it is quite normal, and is largely considered to be a sign that they are beginning to understand their situation. People often try to reach an agreement, or promise to do anything, if the pain will go away.
Depression
When mourners realize that they can not cope with their way out of this situation, the reality sets in. Depression leads to sadness, pain, as the weight of what they have lost or are in the process of losing sinks. [Read: What are the Symptoms of Depression and How it Affects Life]. The cries and laments disconsolate and wondering how they can continue. It may be useful for people in this stage of grieving to talk through their feelings with a counselor or even good friends. This scenario, along with others, will come and go for weeks, months or possibly years.
Acceptance
The person now begins to feel a fresh sense of hope, and they think their partner less often. They will not feel the same sense of pain in the rough, and social relations are resumed. They may even start looking for a new partner. Occasionally you may feel nostalgic, but they will accept that the relationship is over. [ What are Common Problems in a Love Relationship]
