Men, this one is for you. Can you pass the gentleman test? If your wife, co-workers, or children were asked if you were someone they would consider to be a gentleman, would they say yes? Does it matter?
Statistics show that men who have more "gentleman" attributes get more respect from their peers, receive pay raises at a faster pace, and overall report to have healthier and happier relationships. It matters.
See how you do with the following questions:
⇒Do I open the door for all ladies and my peers?
⇒Do I avoid speaking of offensive topics in the presence of ladies?
⇒Am I careful to never engage in any behavior that could be misconstrued as inappropriate?
⇒Do I always pay for the meals of those whom I invite to lunch or dinner?
⇒Do I dress in a way that shows I have respect for myself and others?
⇒Do I stand when a lady approaches or leaves my table?
⇒Do I only extend my hand to a lady once she extends her hand first during an introduction?
⇒Do I refrain from giving physical affection to ladies I'm in a casual relationship with unless I have their permission?
⇒Do I help all ladies in my presence with their coats, umbrellas, or any other item they need assistance with?
⇒Do I refrain from ever borrowing money from a lady?
⇒Do I keep my word, always returning items on time and always completing tasks when I have committed to completing them?
⇒Do I keep myself clean, always being mindful of my breath, body odor, and overall hygiene?
⇒Am I comfortable with making and keeping eye contact in all my conversations?
⇒Am I confident, kind and honest?
⇒Do I have polite table manners Do I use them at all times?
If you answered yes to most of those questions, then you're a great example of a gentleman, and I'm sure you feel the benefits of being such in your life.
If you couldn't answer yes to many of those questions, may I suggest you call me? We'll work on it!
Monica Irvine
