Tinder is known as a quick hook-up app—but is this all a user can expect? In 2015, Vanity Fair magazine published a piece that set off a firestorm of negative backlash. They quoted men who called their Tinder conquests, Tinderellas, ouch. Yes, this is the potentially dark side of using a mobile app, however there are folks who do use it and find true love.
If you are one of the small handful of people who aren’t familiar with Tinder, it is an app that you can swipe right on someone’s profile if you are interested, or left if they don’t appeal. It’s come down to a quick swipe, WOW. If the person you swiped right for feels a mutual interest, they can message you about connecting. Could not be easier, no long profiles or questionnaires to fill out—just a brief description and that all-important photo. So folks who meet this way have a physical attraction, but will have to get lucky on the other compatibilities necessary for lasting relationships.
It’s the most preferred way to connect now, and stories of finding true love are beginning to come out. A number of these have been featured on the Vows section of the New York Times. So if you have doubts, you can look these up.
So don’t be afraid to try Tinder, just use it with discretion and caution, the way you would when you meet someone on a dating site or in person. OK you may not want to tell folks how you met if you make a love connection—but if you don’t how will others know it could work for them?
It has become so easy to find love for a night, but real relationships still take time and the right mix of chemistry, values, goals and a shared vision. TInder may be a way to get there quicker as so many folks are using it. Dating is and will always be a number game , at least in part.
