A Utah couple with two young children, two demanding jobs and lots of reasons to be too tired for intimacy decided to try a “sexperiment”—and then blogged about it.
Meg Conley was concerned that she and her husband Riley Bingham were losing touch with one another—which every busy couple knows is all too easy to do when the demands of family and parenting get added on to work and other life stressers. So one night after Riley arrived home, Meg proposed having sex for 30 days—straight. He was very game, and so they did.
Meg shared in her blog that it was hard sometimes to get up the energy and enthusiasm, but that the closeness and positive changes in both their attitudes made it worth it. It’s interesting and not surprising that Riley had enough energy and that wasn’t an issue for him—hummm. Riley did say that they became less “selfish” towards one another—intimacy can really encourage a closeness that tunes the individuals into each other—and contributes to each feeling more cared for and appreciated. It certainly worked here.
Meg was also happy with the change in how much they opened up to one another—talking and sharing feelings more. She even noted that they were more playful with one another and felt like “kids again.”
I have always maintained that having sex more often has benefit in and of itself. But too often we put the emphasis on fireworks and make it such a chore and hurdle—that the good old fashioned quickie has gotten a bad name. This sexperiment sheds new life on that—and given how well it worked for Meg and Riley I would recommend it to all couples. Do it more and don’t get hung up on who does more of what and how—just get it on and have fun.
