Ride or die: To be down with your husband/wife no matter what, through it all the good and the badOK, I am all about being down for my husband and my family no matter what BUT 1 thing I will NEVER do is go along with something that they are doing that I know is completely wrong. I may not be able to change their mind about the decisions they chose to make but they will always know that I totally disagree with it.
So, let's talk about the "ride or die" family. These family members know that their sons, brothers, cousins, uncles and even husbands are dead beat dads but they don't say anything. They go along with it because whatever he says goes. They are usually afraid to speak up because sometimes they are being supported financially by this same man who chooses not to support his children. These "ride or die" family members usually act as if the deadbeat is the victim. What they do not realize is that if this man can turn his back on his children he can and will turn his back on them if necessary. These men are frauds and life is easy for them because nobody is there to tell them the truth about their decisions. If I ever have a son and I find out he has a child that he does not support I will do everything I can to try to get him involved in that child's life. If he still decides not to be in the child's life than it is my job as a mother to step in and take over. I couldn't sleep knowing that I have a grandchild that was abandoned by my own son.As far as the "ride or die" wife, if you decide to stay with a man who cheated on you and had a baby, or married you without telling you about his child then you my dear are already suffering enough, and that's all I will say about that. But, the RIGHT thing to do is to put your feelings to the side and encourage your husband to be in his child's life. To the single mothers that must deal with these
