I want you to think of the last time you felt truly, utterly unseen. The ache in your chest when someone looked right past the tremor in your voice and responded only to the words you said. Now, I want you to sit with a truth that may bring tears to your eyes, as it has to mine in thousands of moments with others: We build fortresses around our hearts made not of stone, but of opinions.
“I think this policy is wrong.”
“I believe they acted foolishly.”
“In my opinion, this is the right way.”
And then we sit inside that fortress, wondering why we feel so desperately alone, why no one seems to hear the silent cry of the child within who is simply scared, or hurt, or longing to be held. The walls we build to protect our tenderness become the very barriers that isolate it.
Here is the tear-jerking truth that changed my own life: People can only react to the feelings that are shared. They cannot see the storm raging in your soul if you only ever describe the weather outside. If you share an opinion, you will receive a debate. If you share a strategy, you will receive a counter-argument. But if you share the tremor in your belly, the heavy weight of sadness on your chest, or the fragile flicker of hope in your heart… you invite a human response. You offer someone the map to find you in the dark. When we only share thoughts, we are presenting a well-defended statue to the world, and then we are heartbroken when no one tries to hug it.
So, please, hear this from a place of deep empathy, not judgment: Don’t be upset if others treat you like you don’t have feelings if you don’t share them. This is not their failure to see you; it is the tragic consequence of our own self-abandonment. We were taught to be smart, to be right, to be strong but we were never taught how to be felt or even feel our own feelings to share.
We disconnect from our own feeling body, from that raw, pulsing truth within us, and then we hand the world the disconnected shell of an opinion and ask it to understand the pain living inside. It is an impossible request.
The journey back to connection begins with the bravest act you will ever undertake: turning away from the fortress wall and facing the feeling you’ve locked inside. Before you ask anyone else to care for your heart, you must first reconnect with it yourself. Sit with the ache. Locate it in your body. Give it a name. Welcome it as a part of you that has been waiting, desperately, for your attention. When you finally learn the language of your own feelings, you will stop handing people opinions and start offering them the truth of your being. And in that vulnerable, terrifying, beautiful offering, you will finally give them something real to connect to.
This work this sacred, trembling journey of turning away from the fortress and toward the feeling is not just a philosophy I write about. It is the very heartbeat of the life I share with my wife, Sherry. It is what we have the profound honor of doing for a living. We sit, together, with those who are ready. Ready to stop the cycle of reaction. Ready to stop feeling misunderstood by the world because they feel misunderstood by themselves.
We are seeking those of you who are tired of the same arguments, the same loneliness, the same story playing out in your head. We are here for those ready to heal with their feelings, not in spite of them. Because when you finally befriend your own emotional world, a miracle happens: your thoughts, your reactions, and your responses to life begin to change on their own. You are no longer a prisoner of your old wiring; you become the architect of your new connection.
To show you what this means, to offer you a tangible experience of what it feels like to be reconnected to the truth of you, we invite you to join us for a 60-minute Gift to Heal. This is not a sales call. It is a sacred space. It is an hour where we will listen not just to your story, but to the feelings beneath it. It is a chance to feel, perhaps for the first time, what it is like to have someone fully connect to the part of you that has been waiting, and to begin to learn how you can offer that same connection to yourself.
This is the impact of a life fully connected to you: Your choices cease to be reactions from old pain and become clear, empowered responses from a place of wholeness. If you are ready to stop building fortresses and start coming home, we are here. Your feeling self is waiting.
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With every feeling of hope,
Lee and Sherry
