For so long, you’ve been a ship lost at sea, believing the storm was outside of you. You’ve looked to other people to be both your anchor and your wind, begging for a steady hold and a gentle push, all while feeling the deep, aching truth that no one could ever provide both at the same time. You’d find a connection that felt like a perfect, powerful gust—a soul-friend, a lover—and you’d set your sails, soaring with the joy of being seen. But when the winds inevitably stilled, as all winds do, you were left adrift, convinced the connection was broken, that you were broken. You’d then grasp for an anchor in a promise, a commitment, clinging to the structure of “us” even when the “us” felt hollow and dry. You’ve been trying to build your home in another person, and you’ve come away homeless, over and over again. The most tear-jerking truth is this: the abandonment you feel wasn’t their final act; it was the echo of your own.
Here is the loving truth that can begin to heal you: The Rudder and the Sail exist within you first. Your connection to yourself is the Sail. It’s the feeling of your own worth on a quiet morning. It’s the spark of your own creativity, the gentle whisper of your own intuition, the profound peace of accepting your own flawed and beautiful heart. This is the wind that fills you with purpose and joy. And your commitment to yourself is the Rudder. It is the non-negotiable choice to show up for your own healing, to speak kindly to yourself after a mistake, to set the boundary that protects your peace, to choose the path of growth even when it’s terrifying. You cannot expect another person to navigate your ship for you.
This is the sacred synergy of self-healing. When you commit to yourself (the Rudder)—through therapy, through morning routines, through tough choices—you create a vessel of unimaginable strength and safety. This steadfastness allows your connection to yourself (the Sail) to unfurl without fear. You can explore the depths of your own spirit, because you know you have the steady Rudder of your own commitment to guide you home if you get lost. The love you’ve been seeking from others was only ever a reflection of the love you are learning to generate within the sacred ecosystem of your own being.
This is the work. This is the path. Our Root Camp, with Sherry and I, this is exactly what we guide you to build. We help you forge your own inner Rudder and mend your own inner Sail. We create a space where you can practice this profound self-allegiance, not as a solitary journey, but in a community of others doing the same brave work. Because when you finally become your own anchor and your own wind, you stop arriving at relationships desperate and half-sunk. You arrive whole, capable of connecting from a place of overflow, and committing from a place of deep, unshakable self-respect. Your healing awaits in the most important connection you will ever make: the one with yourself.
With love,
Lee❤️ Sherry❤️
