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Same Old Same Old Money Arguments

By Eemusings @eemusings

Ever feel like you’ve having the same arguments in your relationships? Over and over and over again?
fighting about money, same old money arguments
While we can all learn better habits and sometimes refine certain characteristics, at the core I don’t think people really change. I know which of my quirks that get up T’s nose, and I (sort of) try to minimise them. I’ve resigned myself to his, though I still try to ‘improve’ him from time to time.

What is it they say – relationships usually split over religion, sex, or money? For us, it’s the latter that’s most contentious.

This week has not been a good one. It dragged up an old debate that underpins our biggest conflict. Namely, that T is a lot better with money than he used to be, but ultimately he’s a spender, and he’s not into delayed gratification.

Financially, I’m on the losing end of this relationship. I also accept that I always have to be the CFO, and yes, the mean one. It is a struggle, but I’m okay with being the one responsible for maintaining balance.

But every so often, when I put down the stern/depressing word after we/he are slipping, he goes into a funk of the ‘I’m not good enough/I hold you back and it never changes’ variety. Of course – if you keep doing things the same way, you’re going to get the same results.

I know what I’m working with here and I am willing to work around it. But from where I’m standing, I need him to help me out and do his part.

What’s your eternal relationship conflict, if you’re willing to share?

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