It is no surprise that dating your spouse is important for a fulfilling and lasting relationship. The results tell all: those couples that keep dating in their lives have a better chance at relationship success. Making an effort to keep the flame burning is well worth it.
As the holiday season is upon us, it’s so easy to lapse into the “I don’t have time” mentality. Trimming the tree, decorating the house, planning the holiday meals and inviting the guests, along with shopping for that special gift for everyone on the list is overwhelming. And then there’s the “normal” stuff like working at your job. It’s an immense “to do” list for sure!
But relationship success requires that you keep focusing on improving your relationship. And that includes something as simple as remembering to date your spouse! So how do you keep dating alive during this time?
First of all get to know the benefits of dating your mate. Knowing the benefits of dating your mate will help remind you of its importance and help you keep this vital activity front and center in your relationship. Benefits of dating include:
- Helps you get reacquainted
- Makes an Investment in your relationship
- Focuses on your marriage
- Creates memories of good times
- Sends positive messages
- Strengthens the marital bond
- Rekindles romance
- Injects excitement
- Strengthens the commitment
The goal of dating your mate is spending quality time so don’t let the stress of holiday giving divert your attention from each other.
Relationship Success Tips – Ideas for Holiday Themed Dates
How about making a holiday shopping spree a date? Take the list and go to the stores. Then when the list is finished go to a special dinner for just the 2 of you.
Play hooky! Instead of shopping go to a movie or bowling just the 2 of you. The stores will still be there tomorrow, and so will the list.
How about making the gift wrapping a date at home? Put the kids to sleep, get dressed up, and have a candle light dinner as you wrap the presents.
The idea is make it a date, not a task. And if you keep that in mind, almost anything can turn into a date!
The Merriam-Webster Dictionary describes a date as, “an appointment to meet at a specified time; especially: a social engagement between two persons that often has a romantic character.”
Make this definition work for you this holiday season. The most important aspect is that you spend time together. Giving your time is giving your love. Find the time this season for each other and enjoy a strengthened relationship – the gift of a lifetime.
