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If one were to take a look at the old music videos starring rappers such as Snoop Dogg, and then shift their eyes to the current hip hop videos, one would be able to see that the amount of African-American women starring in these videos has alarmingly dwindled down to a point, where it has now become a game of where’s the black women rather than where’s Waldo.
Before I continue writing this article, I wish to make it clear that this is not a finger-pointing rant concerning a disgruntled black woman, no. This is me simply trying to understand why ever since I molted my naïve 14-year-old girl skin, I, like many other black women, have been cast aside by not all, but by some black men because I am apparently considered to be a triple threat! 1) The usual, I have a bad attitude, 2) My hair isn’t silky, shiny, and straight, and 3) I am too picky. There are times when I actually laugh at myself, because I always used to frown at the fact that there were too many black men who purposely dated black women because they hated the idea of bi-racial relationships, now the tables have turned significantly, but at times, for the wrong reason. This idea of a ‘nappy’ haired ghetto black women with a baby in one hand and a cigarette in the other, whilst wearing a ‘you’re the baby daddy!’ t-shirt, has polluted the minds of not only a considerable amount of black men, but also innocent minded black boys! There are times when a grown girl like me has had my feelings crushed by hearing young black boys say that black women are not easy and have huge stretch marks. It is words like this that have caused many black women to not only feel belittled, but also abandoned. What have we done to make the male african american society turn on us? Have they seem to forgotten that before and during the slavery it was us, only us, who they had? We were their best friends, their soul mates and most importantly of all their mothers. Is it really us that is the problem or is it in fact them?
Now I love, and always have loved, the idea of bi-racial relationships, and when I see a black man with a woman of any ethnicity it does not bother me, because I consider it normal; these men should not be restricted. However, when I hear a black man say I wanna be with a this girl (mostly Caucasian) because they’re easy and skinny, my eyebrows tend to take a super dip down into by head to form a frown. It is this easy concept that truly agitates me, because not only are black women being disrespected, but it is also Caucasian women too who are being disrespected. There are too many black men who are being brainwashed by the pornographic image of a blonde Caucasian girl who can and will do anything sexually for them. And the worse thing is that this image, is now being realized and accepted by these girls, rather than being deflected. I have now come to realize that this pathetic war to ‘bag’ a black man has not only helped to worsen the feud between black men and women, it has now caused many, and I mean many, black women to shun and hate Caucasian women because we have been tricked into seeing them as thieves.
After having Barack Obama being elected as the first African American president of America, I personally thought that the desire to say no to racism was being wanted by many, but that was unfortunately just one of my many dreams, because it has now become an everyday thing where if I watch a movie or hang out with my friends, I always witness some animosity between a black girl and a Caucasian girl, causing some of us to be seen as hypocrites. Hypocrites because like how Black men are deeming us to be awful characters, we too are doing the same thing to the female Caucasian society. Think me bitter, and think me skeptical, but racism has and always will be a part of our lives, whether we choose to accept it or not.
Author’s Note: Olayemi Olurin told me several years ago that Black Women were going extinct.
