The Admot of Toldos Ahron is concerned over too much bittul torah. To that end he has decided to prohibit students in the Toldos Ahron yeshivas from attending the weddings of their fellow students.
Any change of societal norms has a ripple effect. If 20/50/100 boys dont go to a friends wedding to dance and bring joy to their friend, the effect might be that the wedding might not be a particularly joyous event - some relatives and friends will surely come and dance, but it wont be the same as a slew of yeshiva bochurim and the chosson's friends bringing their energy. So, the Admor added to his decree the formation of a group of people who will go to weddings and be leibidige, bring joy, dance with energy, and make up, somewhat, for the lack of friends from the yeshiva.
The Admor did stress that people should not rely on the "mesamchim" group to be responsible for bringing joy to the chosson - that is an addition, but the family and older friends should make sure to do their part in bringing joy to the married couple at their affair.
According to Kikar, similar rules are already in place in several other Hassidic groups. And, in addition to bittul torah, another issue is that the young men form yeshiva coming to dance often seem to take over the simcha and the family and friends get pushed aside as if they are acquaintances and guests.
Without commenting on the decree itself, it is somewhat sad to think of people getting married and their friends not being able to attend and dance. Let's be honest - us old people dance, some more some less, but the real energy is brought by the younger people. The chosson will probably be bored with just a bunch of old people shuffling around a circle for a bit.
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