Millennials have been keeping their distance from one of the core institutions in our society. Only 26% of this generation, numbering over 80 million, are married. Compare that to other generations: 36% of Gen X, 48% of Baby Boomers and 65% of the Silent Generation were married at the same age.
According to the Pew Research Center, one of the main qualities most women want in a husband is a secure job. Yet the report points out that young men are increasingly less likely to be employed. And those who do have a job are bringing home less money than ever. So although marriage hasn’t completely disappeared from the radar, financial constraints and other imbalances seem to be having a huge impact.
If you don’t want singlehood to be the new normal, here are a few practical tips you can apply to your relationship:
Ask for what you need. No one is a mind reader. Out of frustration or resentment, couples sometimes start to withdraw from each other. Instead, why not commit to understanding your partner’s anger or disappointment? And if you meet halfway, you both may get more of what you want.
Invest in your happiness. That will relieve some pressure, and your partner won’t have to be the major source of your wellbeing. When you take action in your own life, you feel confident, have a better attitude, and are more interesting. And you’ll find that your relationship will profit from the emotional dividends.
Express gratitude often. Compliments feel good at times when you may be taking each other for granted. Try to see your partner through a different lens. Look for special qualities or charming quirks you love. And when you’re having positive thoughts or feelings, remember to say them out loud.
Only you know what it will take to make you fulfilled in your relationship. Have an honest conversation about your unique issues. Then follow our advice to Millennials Prince William and Kate Middleton before they got married in 2011. A shift in how you feel can result from a gesture as easy as a full body hug or an event as simple as a weekly date night. And being satisfied with small changes will surely add pleasure and greater intimacy to your relationship.
