Miley Cyrus Seeks The Wrong Attention
I didn’t get a chance to watch the VMA award shows on T.V. a few nights ago but I have seen clips of Miley Cyrus’s big performance. As a mom, I am outraged and feel as if this type of content shouldn’t be on prime time television. After all, many families spend time together in the evenings relaxing and enjoying television shows together. As a parent, you have the right to turn the television off or change the channels but we shouldn’t have to because of one celebrity decided to take her performance to a new extreme. Her performance for the VMA’s isn’t something that families should be exposed to on prime time television. The performance was similar to the garbage that you would expect to see at a strip bar. In fact, my husband wrote a post a few months ago about the power and influence that media has on your mind, just think of what this type of media exposure do to your own children.
Disclosure: The opinions reflected in this post are my own and your opinions may differ from my opinions.
Miley Cyrus isn’t a Role Model That I Want My Children to Look Up Too
As a mom, Miley Cyrus isn’t some one that I want my kids to look up to or model her obnoxious behavior. I don’t want them to think that her behavior is acceptable because IT IS NOT. Her performance was trashy and totally unacceptable behavior for prime time television. Just think of all of the followers and fans that she has from her role on Nickelodeon. I am sure there were some kids who were excited for her performance on the VMA’s but her performance wasn’t suited for any aged child.
It is Important that I Teach My Own Children To Have Self Respect For Their Bodies
If my child even remotely decides to wear anything that I think it too revealing outside of our home, I immediately send them back inside to change their clothes. I want to teach my kids self-respect and self-love. According psychology today, self-love is an action and not a feeling. In order to truly love ourselves, we have to be mindful of the things that we say and do in front of our children. Most children model will model their parents actions and values. In fact, children who have low self esteem are more likely to be depressed, get caught up in the wrong crowd, abuse drugs or alcohol, drop out of school, or even commit suicide.
Parents Need to Be a Parent to Their Child and Not A Friend
My job is to be the parent of my children and not be their friend. I will tell my kids when they mess up, when they do something that I think that they shouldn’t be doing, or do something that goes against the values that I have instilled in them. I will correct the behavior and do what it takes to get to the root of the problem. As a parent, you should always encourage an open door policy so that your child can come talk to you whenever they need too, even if the time isn’t right for you. An open, honest relationship will encourage your child to open up to you and to come to you every time there is a problem.
Don’t Neglect Your Relationship With Your Child
I can’t stress enough about how important it is to be involved in your child’s life no matter how busy you are. Your child looks up to you for advice, guidance, encouragement, and love. If you aren’t there for them when they need you, they will find someone or something else to fulfill their needs or get the attention they are seeking just like Miley Cyrus did on national television.
Teaching Children About God’s Love and Values
In my home, we raise our children with Christian values. I want my children to understand that God created them just the way they are. In fact, they should love themselves the way God loves them. The media does a great job trying to sway our kids away from the Christian values. Instead, the media wants to teach them that in order to be popular that they must look or act a certain way in order to be accepted and loved. This goes again what God says in Romans 12:2.
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
Parents Need to Teach Their Child About Gods Perspective on Sex
Children today are exposed to a large amount of sexual content, similar to what you saw during Miley Cyrus’s performance on the VMAs. As a parent, it is your responsibility to teach them how to honor their body. Communicate with your child and explain to them that God designed sex for marriage. It is important that you talk to your child about sex. You don’t want them to learn about it from someone else, especially, from someone who doesn’t share the same values that you do. You want to teach your children to save themselves for marriage so that they don’t fall into the trap that sex is for pleasure outside of marriage. Children often feel that they need to have sex with someone in order to have a relationship with the opposite sex because that is what the media is teaching our children.
Provide Your Child With A Way Out of An Uncomfortable Situation
Always provide your child with a way out if they find themselves in a situation that makes them uncomfortable or they are put in a situation that they know is wrong. Let your child know that they can call you at anytime and that you will come get them with no questions asked. This gives your child the opportunity to do the right thing in an uncomfortable situation.
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Do you approve of Miley Cyrus’s behavior?
