Hello everyone!
So I’ve decided to add a new category to the blog called “Meditation Realizations” I have begun mediating daily, today being only my 4th day, and the Holy Spirit has already reviled so much to me, that I could not just keep it to myself! So whenever I come to a revelation that I feel is big enough to put into word, I promise to share it here with you J
(Read: “Success through Stillness” The book thathelped me start meditation)
Dealing with Ask hole’s
I’ve come across this funny meme a number of times on Instagram and Facebook, and every time it gets an overwhelming amount of likes and amen’ s the reason most likely stemming from the fact that at some point or another we all encounter someone we spend a good amount of energy pouring out advice to, only to have them turn around and make the exact misguided decision that you warned of. This can be very frustrating especially when dealing with people you care about like friends or family but I’ve come up with a few things to consider to ease the stress of dealing with a total ask hole.
You’re just an advisor
The opposite of an advisor, would be a manger, and you don’t need to be trying to manage anyone else’s life but your own, unless it’s your child or employee. As an advisor your only job is to give this person just that “advice” this doesn’t necessarily mean that they will take it or not, but just the fact that you gave them the option should be enough to leave you satisfied.
Remember sometime people have to learn on their own
Sometimes the best way for people to figure something out is by trying it for themselves and either failing or succeeding. Advice can come from a million different places but in the end only one person can make the final decision, and once they do their only ones who will live with them so hopefully they chose what made them happiest.
Maybe…you’re wrong
As difficult as it might be to admit that you may not be right all the time (especially for someone like me) when your trying to help someone out really your just on the outside looking in, and though you may think you know all the details you still can’t actually feel that persons emotions or hear the thoughts in their head. Your ultimate goal in giving advice should be to lead the person to what’s best in the long run, but also what makes them happy, and no one can determine that happiness but them.
Don’t give up
While the definition of insanity maybe trying the same thing over and over and expecting new results, miracles happen every day and if you truly believe in the advice your giving, you can’ get tired of preaching it, who knows maybe this time they will listen. The important thing is to be supportive no matter what they choose and not to say I told you so if and when you are right J
