I have previously blogged on this topic but it warrants another reminder. Setting goals is something we are familiar with on a daily basis, especially if we are employed. On a personal level we also set goals for ourselves; losing weight, getting the promotion, winning the tennis match, finding the love of our life and more. The list is endless. But do we set goals for our relationship to flourish?
Goals keep us motivated to getting just a bit better at things, keep us on our toes and don’t allow complacency to set in. Goals keep us moving along in our journey and also bring new adventures into our lives. Goals keep us organized and secure that we are looking out for our best interests and following new trends.
Some people just talk about goals while others make them happen. Those that talk may have good intentions but don’t follow through. Those that make them happen see change. Which type are you?
Here are some tips to incorporate goals into your relationships.
1. Write down your goal. Then share it with your partner. Talk about it and see if you agree on the selection.
2. Make it specific. Discuss the details of the goal and have many small goals instead of large unattainable ones.
3. Make it measurable. Set parameters that will tell you if it was effective.
4. Make it timely. Allow a period of time for the goal to be met and then at the end of the allotted time evaluate the progress. Do not leave it open ended.
5. Make the goal fit your values, strengths and purpose. Be comfortable with the end result of your goal.
6. Identify why this goal is important to you and discuss with your partner.
7. Identify obstacles that could keep you from achieving the goal and develop a plan of action steps to ensure success.
8. Take consistent action daily to turn your goal into a reality. Use a support network of people you can count on for accountability and encouragement.
9. And finally, celebrate your accomplishment.
As in the corporate or business world, supervisors and mangers often reward employees with “employee of the Month” for some job well done. Reward yourself and give yourselves the “relationship” of the month and celebrate your job well done. Your reward could be a The Gift of a Lifetime Marriage.
