When I was asked to participate in Durex's #GetCloserGoFurther campaign I thought it would be a lot of fun! They have a Sparks section on their website and it has great ideas for flirting, datenight, foreplay, and sexplore. You really need to check it out!
Here is a bit about my love and marriage:
I have been married to Ryan for 5 and 1/2 years now (together for 8 and 1/2) and I love him more now then I did when we were first married.
I am lucky enough to be with a man who communicates with me. We have our highs and our lows, but we are always able to sit and talk issues out and that in itself is a blessing.It's so easy when you first get married to look at other couples who have been married longer and are not as "touchy feely" and proclaim that will never be us! I was one of those people who thought we will ALWAYS have our hands all over each other. Then life happens. Kids happen. Work happens. Stress happens. Our attention is not only on just each other but on a million other things. This is all normal! It is your job as a married couple to bring it back to the two of you.That is why we make time for our relationship. Neither of us believe in divorce so we have some rules we try to follow in our marriage:1) Date night 2-4 times per month. Yes, we like to go out to eat and have a drink kid free, but sometimes this just means the two of us after the kids go to bed making time for us to reconnect, laugh, and just enjoy one another company.2) Spa dates.
On occasion this is at a real spa, but mostly it's just us after the kids are in bed. We light candles and massage each other's backs, feet, arms, hands, etc. ;) It's a nice way to feel close to one another. Sometimes it's just nice to be touched and massaged after a long day or week! 3) Make out!
I'm not talking sex (although you should be sleeping with your hubby on a regular basis as well), but a good old fashion make out session. You know, the kind that your face feels like sun burn from all the kissing. Do it, mean it, it still gives me the butterflies years later. Plus who doesn't like to make out?!4) Bad behavior jar. ;)
Okay let me explain, every time one of us says something mean or hurts the other ones feelings we have a jar we put money into. It could be a quarter it could be $10, just as long as you put something in the jar to make it right.
This money is used for date nights and we are currently saving for a family vacation. When you are in a life long relationship there is no breaking up fights. This way we are aware of what hurts each other and we end up using the money to do more things together. Makes sense to us!
5) Give each other space! Yep, I said it. I'd say about 2 out of 7 nights per week you will find me reading, working, or watching cheesy reality TV while the hubby is playing XBOX, watching news, or listening to his pod casts.
It's OK to not spend every second together. In fact, sometimes it's needed to want to be around you spouse on the other days! lol
What are your secrets to love and marriage? Do you have any rules that you live by?
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