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1. I keep hearing about this problem but I've never seen it. Where does it exist? I dont see it in the shuls I have davened in in Israel (where I live), and I never saw it in the shuls I have davened in in the USA. I have seen alcohol at kiddushes and I have seen people have some lechaims, but never getting drunk and plastered the way it is described here. Is this a Flatbush problem? a Five Towns problem? A Boca problem? where? I have definitely heard plenty of rabbis and others talking about this as if it is a real problem, but where is it happening? what type of shuls or communities?
2. People sleep too much shabbos afternoon and suffer from naplag Saturday night and Sunday, even without getting drunk.. I am not sure the problem she described is the worst part of people regularly getting drunk.
3. I have heard people say that this is not the problem but is a symptom of what is already a bad marriage. I dont know. What do you think? I think maybe in some cases that may be true, in other cases this may be the result of other problems or this may be the problem itself. I am not sure one can just say what is or isnt the problem. It could be different in each case (I dont know because I dont know who suffers from this as per my first point). Having that much alcohol and pimped out kiddushes though is setting an environment that makes this possible.
4. I have heard, in several discussion groups I follow where this came up, some of the people attack her saying she is at fault, husband has to come home and listen to her so of course he drinks, and other nasty things like that without knowing her or her husband and their situation. I think some people discussing this have taken it too personally and maybe feel connected to it somehow and get defensive
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