A young woman who got engaged asked Rav Yitzchak Zilbershtein, rav of the Ramat Elchonon neighborhood of Bnei Braq, if she has to reveal to her choson that her father is under house arrest, in the grandmother's house, for allegedly abusing his wife, her mother.
The father, ashamed of being discovered and especially by his future son in law, has ordered her to keep quiet about it. The kalla is concerned that if she does not tell her choson and he finds out on his own he might break off the engagement. The concern is also for after the wedding - she does not want to lie and is concerned he'll be upset if he finds out, while on the other hand her father told her to not say.
According to the report on Kikar, Rav Zilbershtein paskened that because her father ordered her to not say, she is not allowed to. Revealing such a thing against the explicit demands of her father would qualify her for the curse in the Torah of "Arur Makleh Aviv vImo - cursed is the one who hits his father and mother.
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