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I Am A Mom And I Refuse to Look Like One

By Milastolemyheart
When I look in the mirror, the word that comes to mind: Losyang. I see a single mom in her late 30's with 5 crazy little kids who haven't showered in weeks. In reality, I just turned 30 and I have a sweet daughter and a loving husband (and I shower everyday). 

I used  to try and look presentable specially when I'm at work. They say you have to look and dress for the position you want, not you have. I'd say I used to dress like a Manager. Now it looks like I'm aiming for an early retirement with how tired and sloppy I always look.

I can barely remember to comb my hair these days. If I'm just staying home, it'll be a miracle if I take a shower and my husband thinks I'm turning into an orangutan with hair everywhere. When I'm not working, my time is spent breastfeeding, giving my daughter a bath, preparing her meals, cleaning up after her mess, and running the household. When we go out, a full hour is needed to pack her diaper bag and dress her up. Dad and baby is all set and I only have 5 minutes to take a bath and dress up. I've never been the type to wear make up. Powder and Lipstick is all I need - I only get to do that in the car if I'm lucky. Don't even get me started on my wardrobe. It was BC years the last time it was updated. A lot of other things take precedence before Me.

You have to feel good inside so you will look good on the outside. The reverse is also true. Having you nails done or getting your hair blow dried can do wonders to your psyche. Wearing a nice dress or just vomit-free clothes can lift your spirits up. Putting a little make up on does not hurt at all. Wouldn't it feel so nice to hear your husband tell you how extra beautiful you are today? Or just hear your daughter say Wow when she sees you twirling on that lovely dress? If you look nice, you just feel more confident. That confidence shows in the way you talk and walk. When you look good, it will give you the appearance of having more credibility and authority. People can respect you more because the way you carry yourself shows that you respect yourself too.

It's hard for most moms to find time for themselves and make an effort to look good. Sometimes, you even feel guilty if you spend time and money on yourself when you know you have to go to the groceries to get more diapers. Truth is, looking good and feeling good does not take much.

Many associate motherhood to being losyang (or looking older than one's age). If that's the case, then I refuse to look like one. From this point on, I promise my self I will make an effort to bring back the more confident me. I am already working on having my wardrobe updated. All the pregnancy clothes are back in storage and the BC (before child) clothes are out. I may need to get new sizes though. A new haircut is due and I promise to wear better clothes at home too, not the tattered ones I'm so used to by now.

My next big project for myself is to address a long time problem with my skin. I can't remember the last time I was acne-free. I rarely take selfies because I end up having to edit all the blemishes. I also don't really like wearing too much makeup, neither do I have time for that. I want my skin to feel and look healthy again. I know this is one thing that I need to improve on to gain my self-confidence back. I want my husband to look at my eyes instead of the big acne on my nose. I want my daughter to see how pretty mommy is. I want to go out and not be afraid of bumping to an old friend and have them think "What happened to Paulline?"

I already scheduled a consultation with Dra. Kyla Talens of Skin Philosophie Medical Aesthetic and Lifestyle Solutions. Dra. Kyla is an Aesthetic Dermatologist trained in the UK with a degree in Psychology from The University of the Philippines. Her training lets her understands how physical beauty helps improve not just the outside but also the over all well-being of an individual.
I plan on getting a much needed Skin Philosophie Signature Facial. Dra. Kyla may suggest other procedures too that will address my Acne Problems like the Windsor Clarifying Polish. I am open to what she will recommend because I know she will consider my needs (lasting results with less maintenance), preferences (no injection please), and resources (I have a certain limit to my budget).
Let's kick off our losyang looks together. If you want to look and feel better, a visit to Skin Philosophie may just be what you need.
My readers will receive exclusive 10% discount on regular services offered by Skin Philosophie, just fill up this form and an email will be sent to you that you can present at your appointment.
Not yet sure of the treatment you want or need? Fill out the form below to avail FREE consultation / assessment by Dra. Kyla (Except for pathological cases – normal consultation for pathological cases is P600 - P1,000).
Skin Philosophie Medical Aesthetic and Lifestyle Solutions is located at the 3rd level, The Fort Strip, 28th corner 7th Avenue, Bonifacio Global City (BGC), Taguig. For inquiries and appointment booking, contact: 0917-8860646, 0917-8906800, 02-2118662, 02-21580780, or 02-8567451.
For more details, visit their Facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/skin.philosophie.
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