Remy Kelvin
Your fiance is now your wife in making. She may be concerned about the finances. She has all the rights to know about your income, the sources of income and the way the financial matters are going to unfold after marriage. Similarly she may have other concerns, social or psychological, bugging her mind.
It is your obligation that you must remove her fears and keep her morale high. There is no point in shrugging the issue rather it can further aggravate the situation. Though it s not an easy task to handle a crazy fiancé but here are some useful tips that can make your ob easy.
- Doubtful about the relationship. Your fiancé may be in a dilemma,. She may not be sure whether you are the right person to get married with or not. She may also not be in a proper state of mind and sentiments to express her fear to you. So you will have to put in your best effort to bring out her true emotions. But it is established that she is doubtful about the future relationship then it is better to consult your religious leader or a psychotherapist who can redress her fears and give her more confidence. If her concerns are irrevocable then you may reconsider this wedding and leave her at her own to plan for her future life. [Read: How to Search for a Suitable Life Partner]
- Fear of Wedding ceremony. Some girls and at times even the boys, get nervous on the imagination of their wedding ceremonies. Some are shy to face to the huge gatherings, other are skeptic of the rituals performed on the event. The details of expense can also make the people stressful about the event.
- Concerns about inviting the guests. There may be some worries about who all should be invited and who all should be avoided. At times this becomes a complicated issue. Your fiancé may not like to invite a certain person because of his bad habits but social compulsion is that he has to be invited as he happens to be the nephew of fiancé's mother. [Read: How to Adjust with Mother in Law]
- Talk to your fiancé frankly. Note her verbal gestural signals and identify the level of anxiety through which she may be going. At times you may become annoyed with her that look what type of girl she is that she is so nervous on the most wonderful day of her life. But be patient and do not hurry.
- Cancel the Schedule. At times the anxiety of your fiancé may be so high that you may have to cancel the schedule of your wedding. This may be the worth part one what can you do if your fiancé is not in a good mood.
- Reduce the Expenses. If your fiancé is worried about finances, you can reduce the expenses on wedding function. This can be done by arranging the reception ceremony at home. You can arrange a low interest loan from a suitable bank. [How Couples Should Manage Finances and Budget Together]
- Elope with Fiance. And last but not the least you can think of eloping with your fiancé. Though this is not recommended option from the parent's point of view but it can solve many of your problems. You will get rid of all the ceremonies, parties, functions and expenses related to them. Once the dust settles you can conveniently come back to your home along with fiancé (now your wife) and get into the routine of life.
