If you are going to date with a widower man all that can be said is please be careful and guard your heart. And, the things that you may tolerate well when you start dating may make you want to choke him once you've fallen in love with him. Make no mistake we are very easy to love. They know how women think and they know what to say and do. It is a good time to have been managing his grief but it varies from one person to the next.
How to Date a Widower
Things That You will Need to Do
You will need to be very up front with your communication with him. Ask lots of questions and take nothing for granted. And do not put his needs ahead of yours. Don't do it because relationships should be mutually satisfying.
So if you're brave and self confident go for it. If you already lack self confidence this is not for you, as your confidence will get worse and you will feel miserable. If you have low or moderate self esteem, you move on to someone who is more available. It can work if the widower is serious about being committed to you and the new relationship.
Some Problems that May Arise
Constantly hearing stories of previous family [ Avoid Telling Your Sad Story To Everyone]. Ex family will always be around especially if there are children from that marriage. This is fine provided his family accepts you for you & does not compare you to their beloved dead family member. Do not compare yourself to the his old family. You will drive yourself nuts. Yes, the circumstances are different from meeting someone who is already single or divorced. Remember, people make the choice to get married. They can make the choice to divorce their spouse if unhappy; however, we don't choose the die we are going to die or how we are going to die. Unless you are suicidal, and that is a whole another issue.
It's not ever too soon for a widower to be dating. You must know that you may not ever match that someone they loss, but you being there for them may be the greatest since they had loss that person. When the time comes, they'll eventually let go of that someone and truly belong to you, it's just that they need that time with your help them move on. Someone wants their love one to move on and be happy, if you can make that person feel special/happy and vice-versa, that is all that matters.
Depends on Previous Life
Much would depend on how long the previous marriage lasted, what kind of relationship it was, children of the marriage, and other factors of that sort. Also, assuming the previous marriage was happy, he would be looking for and expecting many of the same qualities. We know that each person is unique and entitled to be judged on their own merits. And presumably, if he's reasonably bright, he understands that. But the longer his past marriage, the more there is a likelihood he will unconsciously be looking for those qualities that he enjoyed in his past relationship, and there's no way you can find out what those qualities were. And even if you could, that was her and this is you. But the best approach is to simply spend time with him. If you're attracted to him and he to you. And if it starts getting serious and there is discussion about taking the relationship to a different level, have a full and complete discussion about his expectations and the judgments and comparisons he is liable to be making. If he is understanding and flexible, he can make a good partner. After all, some other woman already broke him in.
