Unrealistic expectations can make the holidays a stressful time for everyone, but especially so for those of us who are prone to depression. My expectatiobns at this point in life are to BE DEPRESSED around the holidays. That way I can go easier on myself. It's OK to hide under the covers and not greet the world with a cheery smile.
Expecting to be depressed around this time has actually lowered my overall levels of depression--so far. Still have New Year's to get through.
One of my friends always leaves town around the holidays in order to get away from them. But these days, when just about everyone celebrates something in the month of December, it's hard to get away from the good cheer entirely.
My heart goes out to those of you who are miserable at this time of year. Give yourself permission to hunker down until it's over. A new year is just around the corner.
Here's a visual gift--one of my favorite paintings:
