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He Texts Me, He Texts Me Not

By Nicelise
He Texts Me, He Texts Me NotIt's not you, it's me. I'm not ready to be in a relationship. I met someone else. I think we should just be friends. The connection isn't there for me.
Yea, it sucks hearing all and more of those things when someone is breaking up with you. Not just because they're horribly overused and are sometimes cover ups for what is really going on, but because you have just been told you're not wanted.
Could anything make being broken up with and hearing these lines worse?
Well what if you were reading these lines? Is that worse?
What if you were reading these lines in a text message?
If someone broke things off with you through a text message, would you be more upset about the break up or that it was in text message?
Sometimes there are just things that are inappropriate to send in a text message and messages can be misconstrued. However, if you receive one of the afore mentioned lines, there really is much to be confused about other than why it was sent in a text message.
He Texts Me, He Texts Me NotFirst you're mad. How dare that loser break up up with me! Then you think "wait a second, he just broke up with me in a freaking text message." If you didn't think he was an idiot before, now would be an appropriate time to start thinking that.
First of all, regardless of the text message, if he used a cliche break up line, he was too stupid and emotionally stunted to say what he really felt. And the fact that he put it in a text message shows his lack of respect for you and that he was too scared to say it to your face, let alone through a live phone conversation to give you a chance to verbalize your thoughts and feelings.
Breaking up with someone is difficult. There is no way to break up with someone without hurting their feelings. Most people don't set out to intentionally hurt another person, and breaking up with someone does just that.
He Texts Me, He Texts Me NotBut rather than just muster up the guts to say the hard things you need to say, some people shoot a text message off. It's selfish -- he doesn't have to face you; he doesn't even have to hear the upset in your voice.
I haven't yet figured out the best way to respond to a break up text. I don't think immediately texting him back is good, but calling him and putting him on the spot might be a good alternative.
As much as it sucks to get broken up with, and sucks even more to get broken up with through a text message, you've just found out that guy you were dating is immature, a jerk and not good enough for you. The joke is on him.
xoxo Nickie

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