Grounding It Out: An Interpretation

Or even a hint of provocation, and you catch fire and you do things for which, later on, you will say, I did it in spite of myself. In watching, the cooperation is broken; you are no longer supporting it. As you peel off this layer, see an image representing the other you emerge. This is the greatest medicine—the medicine of no birth, no death. You stop looking at it. Afraid to try and fail, they don't try even though they probably could have succeeded if they did. A small boy, not more than three years old, comes home running, and tells his mother, Mom, a huge lion, roaring, was running after me for miles! But somehow I managed to escape. You build this level of connection by making yourself known to these people and by opening the door to closer friendships. Psychological pain ends only by accepting the pain in its totality. Even simple eye contact with strangers has been proven to boost people's mood and increase their sense of belonging. Will your energy not be boiling? You repress anger, you repress sex, you repress all kinds of desires, longings—how long can you go on repressing? In some cases these traits may be the reverse of those you want to eliminate, while in other cases they may be entirely different ones. If you can trust nature, by and by you become quiet, silent, happy, joyful, celebrating—because nature is celebrating. So to bring about a unity in my consciousness, I have to see that I am only the moment-to-moment, experiential reality. That's what all the mystics have been insisting again and again: to be one is so blissful, to be many is to be in hell. Continue to watch for a while, really getting a sense of what they are doing so you see what to do yourself.Now, after you have watched for a while, go over to the person you have been watching. Now you will project this whole anger onto the other. Otherwise, going to the being will become impossible—even more impossible than it is from the head. This chapter will focus on just how to do that and the next one is about tempering that energy so you can damp it down when you need to so you can relax. If one has to choose between the head and the heart, one should choose the heart, because all the beautiful values of life belong to the heart. For example, everybody knows about the lotus posture in which you see Buddha sitting. When the autonomic nervous system deems a situation safe, our vagus nerve tells our body to relax. Perhaps you could find out this person's interests or memberships—perhaps with the help of a friend or the party host—and you turn up at one of these activities and start talking there. You are a brave man. Everything filters through a lens of possible threat: A neutral face becomes hostile. You are burning in the fire, and the more you become jealous and angry and hateful, the more you are pushing the other person far away from you. Whenever he felt hungry and drawn to reward himself with a big dinner, he clearly visualized his goal again and again and turned away from the temptation.As part of this visualization, he saw himself going to parties, approaching women, and being comfortable talking to them. Then God initiates everything, and Gandhi goes on doing his part. Then I pictured it pouring out of me into the writing assignment I had for that day. If you feel you are the body type, then running can be very beautiful for you: take a four- or five-mile run every day and make it a meditation. That's why I am saying with such certainty that you don't have it. Because he acts so immediately, you cannot say that he decides, he thinks, he feels. The well-intentioned parent-figure might respond with some degree of dismissal, Don't worry, you'll find new friends. You can fast in heaven! The world needs knowledge. To prevent the anxiety from returning once he went back to work, he asked his inner mind what he needed to do to stay relaxed. Godliness is within your reach. He said, Do you think I can manage that? All human beings are worthy of being loved. Your very first experience on this earth—birth—was a trauma, possibly for both you and your mother. Can you help me understand what this is? Rather, come up with as many ideas as you can as quickly as possible. But the object of appeal was exactly the same: all that you can imagine, can dream of, can long for, will be absolutely fulfilled. Run—just now I was reading a very beautiful book called The Zen of Running: that is for body-oriented people. If you have your own business or are a freelance professional, your goal might be to attract or attain a certain number of customers or clients each month and do whatever is necessary to get more business.If you aren't already clear on the relative importance of your goals, this technique will help you rate your goals and prioritize them.What Are My Most Important Goals?Take a sheet of paper and a pencil and write these headings across the top: My Goals, Their Importance to Me, My Most Important Goals, and Rating My Most Important Goals. Nobody insults you, nobody humiliates you, nobody says anything to you; you are sitting silently, happily, and somebody pushes a button on a remote control and you become angry! It is a very strange feeling because you cannot see the reason anywhere, why you are becoming angry. You are safe, isolated, and protected inside.Get in a very relaxed state and imagine a large screen in front of you. Once you get caught in the beautiful things you are also caught in the ugly things, because mind cannot exist without duality. Experience yourself possessing this new quality for about a minute.You have now established your priorities. Ideals create hypocrisy in people. But the trouble is far bigger than you can conceive. In studies of mice in lab settings, not only did those that were exposed to extreme diets or stress display changes in their heart and metabolism, but so did their offspring and their offspring's offspring and so forth. We've forgotten the happy freedom of doing something for the mere delight of doing it—not for any secondary gain, requirement, or external motivation. Both introverts and extroverts can be lonely. This way at least everybody enjoyed it—except you, that I can understand. But it has never been thought of this way. Because of jealousy you start becoming phony, you start pretending. In turning back from expression to thinking, and from thinking to nonthinking—just pure awareness—you are closest to your own center and to the center of existence itself. And within twenty-one days you can come to an understanding of your type—the predominant one, of course. Einstein has flowered as an absolutely beautiful intelligence—that is the flower that he has to offer to existence. Next, sway your arm to the right and left and as you do repeat the word, no … no to yourself again and again. When the man had gone to the bathroom she asked me, What is the matter? The mind knows only questions and the heart knows only answers. You can only offer your own flowering, and to flower you will have to remove the hindrances. For instance, if you have seen someone give an impressive speech, imagine yourself giving a talk using the same approach. This type of parent-figure is typically known as a stage parent—someone who is overzealous and pushes their child to become an actress or a singer to fulfill the parent-figure's own needs for fame, achievement, or attention. When we do the work of resolving trauma, we can become more resilient. It prepares you; it is a friend, it is not your enemy. And who has made man pornographic? If Gautam Buddha had been able to laugh, then the millions of Buddhist monks after him would not have been so sad, so dull, so without juice, so lifeless. The following techniques are designed to provide you with some alternate ways of getting quick answers from your intuitive mind in the form of words, images, symbols, or from your body.Getting Quick Yes, No, or Maybe Answers from Your IntuitionThis technique, which uses words, images, or symbols, is designed to quickly tap into your inner intuition or feelings to get an immediate and clear yes, no, or maybe answer. Off in the distance you see a large mountain and walk toward it. The death that could have been a great ecstasy will be just an agony. Or a person is heartbroken when the person they plan to marry decides to marry someone else, but someone else turns out to be the perfect partner. Then you simply love, and it goes on spreading. Perhaps you will rationalize it somehow. If you breathe deeply then those wounds of suppression would release their energy. See yourself having achieved your goal or having resolved your problem. And that actually was his mother tongue. You find yourself sad only in situations where you cannot be angry. What can death do? As you do notice its colors and its textures. With your question clearly in mind, go up to the door and knock three times. You will be carried through the door, but on a stretcher, unconscious. In other words, you are seeking the true you because this is the you that will make the commitment to do what it takes to achieve this goal. Essentially, you are reading your own body for answers, as your body holds the key to your subconscious. My definition of religion is to be in tune with nature. And you should not be in a hurry to decide—there is no need, the world is big, and each individual has some unique quality and beauty. Even if you don't currently have a private office or living room, imagine that you do and it is very comfortable and quiet. The first way I get an answer is by seeing it on a screen in my mind or listening for my little voice to give me a yes, no, or short message. This is a great achievement in meditation. Be open. Neither reflection stirs it, nor no-reflection. For all these movements, and to enjoy them, the body needs to be reunited. And there are male qualities, qualities of the warrior, courage. A new journey has started in your life, you are moving into a new kind of being—because immediately, the moment you accept the pain with no rejection anywhere, its energy and its quality change. I wanted to overcome, not shrink back from, the challenges, and I accomplished them.By contrast, I have met many people who have been held back by I can't thinking, so they do or become much less than they could. They will have great ecstatic experiences. Sadness had taken up some energy; it would not have allowed you a deep sense of happiness, it would have clouded your consciousness. Now it has become a matter of scientific truth; now many researchers all over the world say that plants have very deep sensitivity, deeper than human beings, because human sensitivity is disturbed by the mind, the intellect.