Love & Sex Magazine

Getting on the Same Page

By Barbarajpeters @CouplesAuthor

Here’s an idea – how about starting 2012 on the same page with your spouse or partner?  You may be reading from the same book, but the chapters and pages can be vastly different. Pursuing common relationship goals is easier when needs and actions are shared and understood. This means being in sync.

Getting on the same pageIt’s so easy to talk with a partner and come away with a different interpretation of the same conversation. When this happens, both parties may end up feeling unfulfilled and frustrated. It’s like words flow out of mouths, but communication isn’t happening.

When we say we’re on the same page with another person, it means the views and definitions mesh as a starting point for discussion. They might not be the same views, but the two people involved know what is being discussed. This is the key to determining how the situation or problem will ultimately be resolved.

For example, if a wife wants her spouse to spend more time with the family, she will need to define what she means by family time.

Her husband might think being in the same room with the kids constitutes family time, even though he may be totally unresponsive to what is going on and is not interacting with the family in any way. He might think spending time with the family simply means a physical presence.

See the problem?

A spouse or partner making requests or considerations must be crystal clear about what they are asking. Confusion will always result when one partner makes an assumption.

This is particularly true when parenting, and is often a hot topic between moms and dads.

When one parent uses his or her value system to make a house rule and doesn’t share the reasoning for the rule with the other parent, frustration, confusion, and polarizing can occur.  

Confused? Here’s a familiar scenario:

Mom believes good grades and high academic achievement are most important for kids, thus she feels homework should come first for young Johnny. Dad, however, sees Johnny as the high school quarterback and thinks his son can get a generous football scholarship without good grades. Mom pushes studying while Dad pushes sports. Can you see where this is going? Mom and Dad aren’t on the same page as far as their child is concerned. They need to sit down and refine the art of compromise and find out what the other thinks and why. If they don’t do this, household arguments are sure to follow.

You Might Also Like :

Back to Featured Articles on Logo Paperblog

These articles might interest you :

  • Pineapple Pie


    How are you all surviving these dog days of summer? I have discovered a sweet that will cool everyone down. Pineapple Pie. You can make it with canned... Read more

    8 hours, 41 minutes ago by   Kalamitykelli
  • 10 Reasons To Market Yourself More Than A Great Idea

    Reasons Market Yourself More Than Great Idea

    Too many entrepreneurs I know still believe that that their great idea will carry the startup, and they may even minimize their own value, especially if they... Read more

    8 hours, 59 minutes ago by   Martin Zwilling
  • In Praise of Liver: Falling in Love with a Widely Reviled Food

    Praise Liver: Falling Love with Widely Reviled Food

    Do you love liver? If you are like almost 50% of Anglo-Western populations, the answer is likely no. In fact, surveys in some countries - UK, US, Canada -... Read more

    11 hours, 9 minutes ago by   Dietdoctor
  • Infertility, PCOS and the IDM Program

    Infertility, PCOS Program

    Dr. Jason Fung: I was having a discussion with Megan Ramos the other day in our clinic, and she mentioned that yet another patient had gotten pregnant... Read more

    11 hours, 50 minutes ago by   Dietdoctor
  • Magdalene’s Day 2018

    Magdalene’s 2018

    Every year on her feast day, I honor St. Mary Magdalene; even though the Church does not officially recognize her as the patron of whores, she certainly is in... Read more

    12 hours, 28 minutes ago by   Maggiemcneill
  • Cops and Robbers

    Cops Robbers

    The deluge of GDPR emails has finally dried up, thank the Lord. For the uninitiated, GDPR stands for the General Data Protection Regulation 2018. Read more

    13 hours, 29 minutes ago by   Jackscott
  • Holy Grove and Ripple Music Announce the Completion of the Upcoming Album by...

    Holy Grove Ripple Music Announce Completion Upcoming Album Portland's Epic Heavy Doomers

    Ripple Music is thrilled to announce that Portland, Oregon, heavy rockers Holy Grove have just completed the recording of their second full-length, to be... Read more

    14 hours, 59 minutes ago by   Ripplemusic