God loves you unconditionally, as you are and not as you should be, because nobody is as they should be. ~Brennan Manning
Fake it 'till you make is a popular catchphrase in successful sales programs and some good recovery programs. It hasn't, however, worked well for me as a spiritual practice.
I took a special math test in 7th grade. I scored high enough to be in the small group that were 'fast-tracked'. That meant skipping 8th grade math and going straight to Algebra. I was a good student. It would have been great except I really didn't get math.
From Algebra all the way through Calculus, I was completely lost so I faked it. It's tricky, faking math. There aren't any subjective Blue Book exams. There was a right answer, period.
Mr Huth, who sang at weddings and taught all of the advanced math classes, had only one struggling student (me) and one solution. I'd ask a question after class (not during because everyone else got it) and he'd send me home with his Teacher's Guide. We did that same dance for 5 years.
I had the problem. I had the solution. I had no idea how to get from one to the other so I memorized everything. I memorized pages and pages of sample work and applied it well enough to maintain a B. I tried. I listened. I took notes that I didn't understand and I faked it.
The same a + b = c happened to me when I was on the spiritual 'fast track'. I'd have (a) problems and (c) The Answer Book. I tried so hard. I listened. I took notes. I memorized Scripture. Still, I often didn't (b) know how to make real life equations work.
Everyone else seemed to be getting straight A's so I faked it. I didn't fake my faith - that was real. But I substituted what I truly thought and felt for how I thought I should think and feel. I gave all the right answers until I was numb.
We long to know the grace and mercy of God in our lives but we find ourselves tripped up by failure, by temptation, by ambivalence. Fearing disappointing others and the ensuing pep talk (usually a scriptural exhortation) and the have more faith talk. Or worse, that internal voice that says you (and you alone) aren't getting it right, compelling us to continue to fake it 'til we make it.
The message of grace shatters our fake facade. Grace says:
(a) God loves us as we are + (b) not as we should be =(c) because no one is as they should be
Grace frees us to love each other as the Father loves us. We can weep with those who weep because real people weep. We can rejoice with those who rejoice because we're freed from self-obsession.
No grades, just grace.
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