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“Don’t Be Afraid of Taking Definitive Steps, Like That of Marriage”

Posted on the 11 October 2013 by Brutallyhonest @Ricksteroni

Setting aside, if only for a moment, my beloved bride, there are 4 people that I've grown to love with an immense love, a love that knows no bounds, a love I'm too often unable to articulate but that is nevertheless as real as real gets. 

DannyandAnnieI'm dedicating this post to those 4 people, to my two sons who make me so very proud and to the two beautiful ladies that make them them so very happy.  Once they read the entire post and watch the video embedded below, they'll better understand my purpose.

But now back to she who fills my lungs with air, she who makes my heart beat faster whenever she's near, she who is the fullest expression of God's love for me and the best empirical evidence of His existence I've ever seen presented.

In two days, I'll have been married for 32 years and 4 months.  32+ years of the kind of happiness I wish every married couple could experience.  Don't get me wrong, we do on occasion get on each other's nerves, we do on occasion piss each other off, there are times when our disagreements are loud and boisterous but... reconciling has always been and will hopefully always be just a matter of time.  I can't stay pissed at her.  I'm convinced no one can.  She's that special and she's that special to me particularly because she has, year in and year out, despite my many failings and shortcomings, lived up to the commitment made and the vow she recited nearly 32 years and 4 months ago, to love me come hell or high water.

I'm not the most lovable guy out there.  Those that know me know that well.  But she made a commitment, she vowed before God and others present, to love me anyway.  And I can today say with confidence, 32+ years later, that her love for me is stronger now than then and, because history is the best gauge for future performance, she'll love me more tomorrow than she does today.

Yes, it's romantic love and that's all well and good but it's much more than that.  It's a self-giving love that far surpasses the Hallmark card love we too often define as the end-all, catch-all love.  I've come to believe that she would die for me.  And I know firmly that I would die for her.

All of that to set up what follows, something Frank Weathers turned me on to, something that I think exemplifies my bride's love for me, my love for her, and the love I hope my sons have for their ladies and they for my sons. 

A love that doesn't culminate in marriage but instead, in all reality and even mystery, begins with marriage:

When a guy is happily married, no matter what happens at work, no matter what happens the rest of the day, there’s a shelter when you get home. There’s a knowledge, knowing that you can hug somebody without them throwing you down the stairs and saying get your hands off me. Being married is like having a color television set; you never want to go back to black and white. -Danny Perasa

I want my boys and their ladies to go read the whole thing, particularly the concluding paragraph that includes the line used in the title of this post.

It's important. So very important.

Carry on.


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