Ladies, something happens to all immigrants when they migrate to a different country. They have to learn the social norms, culture etc..
For example,
I moved to America more than ten years ago. A lot of people argue that I am an American. For people like me who have lived outside their home country for a long period of time, it takes a conscious effort to hold onto to our culture.
There are some immigrants who migrate to a different country in a few years choose to abandon their own culture and background completely to be fully integrated into their new society. I still consider myself “Nigerian,” but my biological sister considers herself “American.” Every immigrant has to make that personal decision at some point in their new country. It varies for every immigrant.
With that being said.
Your Nigerian guy may really be an American, South African, British..etc. You have to know his percentage.
What do I mean by his percentage?
You need to judge the way he thinks. Does he think like an American majority of the time or does he think like a Nigerian? Again, one has to make a conscious effort to think like a Nigerian in an American society. If he thinks 90% of the time like an American, yes.. you may really be dealing with an American man. If he has been in the United States all his life and he thinks like a typical Nigerian, you need to pay attention to that because it means he is consciously holding onto his Nigerian culture.
If he has lived in other countries that will also influence the way he thinks. Don’t forget to ask the right questions. I had a lady last year tell me that she gets frustrated that her husband is not in tune with his culture. He doesn’t like to eat his cultural food or do anything with his Nigerian background. The point this lady missed was that she is married to an American man. You can’t force someone’s culture on someone. There are other important things to focus on. Let it go, that’s one less thing to fight about.
I wish you all the best with your relationship with our Nigerian men. Don’t forget to treat our men WELL!!
9jagirl4real
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