Right now, I’m supposed to be working on my resume. It is about as bizarre and eclectic as the rest of my life is. Can I include “blogging about my sex and dating life” as a job?
Apparently, I like variety. I seem to change jobs every six months to a year. It’s a little like my dating life.
I like to do things my way.
I’m itching to travel again too. My daydreams are filled with ideas of returning to Europe, traveling the Middle East again, adventuring through North America. I grew up travelling, and want so much to travel again. As much as I love where I live right now, and have amazing friends in this community, I will need a change of scenery in the next year.
I’m finding myself frustrated with a lot of narrow minded views in the poly world me. That attitude of assumption that ‘poly is this’ or ‘poly is this and this’, and I just can’t find myself in those assumptions. I know, the scientific mind has an easier time understanding things if it can define them as singular and finite things, but hey, even science is now finding that, when you get down to a quantum level, the universe is constantly fluctuating and changing.
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When the human mind is allowed to process things with ambiguity and uncertainty, holding opposing ideas and notions in equal balance, it expands.
This is one of the reasons psychedelics have been credited as inspiration for so many artists, musicians, philosophers, and inventors of the last century. And I make no secret that this has been a huge part of my own path, just as much as meditation and yoga.
We are a society trained in holding on to fixed ideas, and maybe we need those fixed ideas to find order within the chaos. We learn from early on to categorize the world around us in boxes. For me, being Poly is not about living life in a different box. It is just one aspect of me living out of the box, all the way. Living life my way.
In the back of my mind I have been processing some of the incompatibilities with poly styles I have come across in some people I have gone on dates with, or dated, and I realized today that a big difference between myself and the poly-majority is that I do not seek life-partners.
It seems that a lot of people in the Poly world approach things with the idea that all relationships will be long term and long lasting- or be strictly recreational and casual. I’m somewhere in between that. Seeking friendtimacy that can have longevity- or not. I have discovered that I can love without desiring ownership over that which I love. In fact, I can love more when I do not desire ownership over the subject of my affections.
Whereas a lot of people- poly or not- seek life long relationships and commitment, I’m committed to me, and that, ultimately, is the only commitment I am willing to make. I love to share my love. And will continue to share it.
It is how I feel free.
This is the only healthy way for me to be.
