My daughter turned 18 in December and is a bit behind in maturity due to her communications skills. She has a bilateral hearing loss and wears cochlear implants on both ears. She got the first one when she was 4 years old and when she got it turned on for the very first time, the reaction on her face was priceless. My daughter ended up losing a ton of early communication skills because she didn’t get her cochlear implant until she was 4 years old. For the first four years of her life, she relied on sign language which gave her a language base.
Disclosure: I received a free copy of How to Raise an Adult in order to facilitate this post.
As we all know that the English language is fairly complicated since there are multiple meanings for some words. So even though she is 18, she is still behind in her communication skills. I have always wondered how well she would succeed in life. My daughter has one more year of high school and then she plans on going to college once she graduates. She wants to be a deaf education teacher and I am very proud of her.
Parenting is super hard and there is no manual available to help parents raise children. I kinda wish there was a guide but at the same time everyone’s opinion would differ based on their own family traditions, values, ect.
As a parent, I want what is best for my children. Here are a few things that I have taught my kids:
- manners
- how to do chores
- how to help others in need
- taught them about hygiene
- to always do their best
- how to be independent
- to do well in school
- teach them that there are consequences for their actions
- taught them the value of money (it doesn’t grow on trees)
- how to prioritize things
- how to be respectful
- and so many other things that are valuable life skills.
I have sorta been a helicopter mom and I really hope that I haven’t sheltered my kids too much. I do care what they do and I want them to always make wise choices.
When I got the opportunity to review How to Raise an Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims, I knew that this was a book that I needed to read.
Here is a brief description of the book:
“Julie Lythcott-Haims is a national treasure. . . . A must-read for every parent who senses that there is a healthier and saner way to raise our children.” –Madeline Levine, author of the New York Times bestsellers The Price of Privilege and Teach Your Children Well
“For parents who want to foster hearty self-reliance instead of hollow self-esteem, How to Raise an Adult is the right book at the right time.” –Daniel H. Pink, author of the New York Times bestsellers Drive and A Whole New Mind
A provocative manifesto that exposes the harms of helicopter parenting and sets forth an alternate philosophy for raising preteens and teens to self-sufficient young adulthood
In How to Raise an Adult, Julie Lythcott-Haims draws on research, conversations with educators and employers, and her own insights as a mother and student dean to highlight the ways in which over-parenting harms children and their stressed-out parents. She identifies types of helicopter parents and, while empathizing with parents’ universal worries, offers practical alternative strategies that underline the importance of allowing children to make their own mistakes and develop the resilience, resourcefulness, and inner determination necessary for success.
Relevant to parents of toddlers as well as of twentysomethings, this book is a rallying cry for those who wish to ensure that the next generation can take charge of their own lives with competence and confidence.
You can purchase a copy of this book on Amazon.
Are you raising your kids to be productive adults?
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