When a man finally decides to hand in his bachelor status and settles down with a woman he loves, there are certainly things that need to be done beforehand. Given that your to-be wife will take care of all the wedding arrangements, that leaves you to pursue some of your own personal interests for one last time!
1.Have a bachelor’s party
Of course no wedding is complete without one! These kinds of social gathering are important and serve as a sort of ‘the last night of freedom’. You can invite all of your friends and close co-workers to an evening of fun and debauchery. None for the groom I mind you. Anyway get your friends together and make a night out of it. It doesn’t necessarily have to involve exotic dancers and what have you! A simple going out so see the clubs is all this party really needs. You don’t want to get too drunk thou, after all you are going to get married the next (same?) day and you want to be as fresh as possible!
2.Ask for your father-in-law for his blessing
If you haven’t already that is. Asking your dear old pappy for his daughter’s hand is important! It shows that you care enough about his opinion, and go through all the trouble of driving over to his house. You should be polite and respectful, but you also have to show that you are a man and you can take care of a family. Asking the mother is also a good move, just in case… If they say no for some reason, don’t take it too personally. Maybe they are the kind of people who shouldn’t be asked these sorts of questions. Drink a glass of cold water and move on.
3. Sign a prenup
Yes, yes I know.. You love each other and you are going to be together forever. That is all well and good if the average divorce rate was not at about 35%! That mean one in ever three marriages fail, and most often drag the man down with it. Paying alimony and child support is one thing, but when she takes you house, your car and your favorite Mick Jagger CDs, things might get a little depressing. That is why a solid, foolproof contract is the way to go. If you wife loves you as much as she says she does, then it should be no problem for her to understand your predicament.
4. Help your wife with the planning
Even though she said that everything has been taken care of, it is still a good idea to give her a helping hand. Of course no one will ask you to help with the decorations, but you can at least help out with the food, pick up the cake, drive the guests etc. All this needs to be packaged into a neat little plan, as not to allow any mishaps from taking place. Remember, if you screw this day up, your wife will never forgive you and she will bring the situation up every chance she has, for years to come! So be safe and be smart, it is only one in a lifetime event, or so you hope.
5. Talk to your father about married life.
A good advice is all you need to make it through marriage. Assuming that you are not a child of divorce, your father can shed some light as to what a successful marriage is all about. Listen to him , for he has a lot more experience than you do. Of course it is preferable that you don’t go into any assorted details as to what you should do on your honeymoon (not play golf all day that is). Just ask him what is the best way to live in harmony with your spouse, and how to achieve a level of stability that would last you at least 20 years! Because after all we must think of the children first, and of ourselves second!
AuthorBio: Emma is working at TidyCleaning Ltd. and loves her job because she find enough free time ti write.
