Where I am getting invitations to weddings of my school friends
And if they are not getting married
They are at least settled in a long term relationship
And having children
I see photos on FB of beautiful smiling girls in white dresses
Or adorable pictures of babies laughing and smiling
I have no problem with this
I would probably be doing the same if it were me
But I seem to be always buying gifts
Gifts when they get engaged
Gifts when they move in to their new house
Gifts and money when they actually get married
And more gifts when they have children
What about us singletons?
What if I decided I am never getting married
Or I don't want to be in a long term relationship
What then?
No gifts?
No lovely home ware?
Or fluffy towels?
Not even a measly toaster?
Why do the married folk get all the perks?
Can I send out invitations to my 'Being single' party?
And everyone can bring presents
And instead of people giving me gifts for my babies
Can I have gifts for my dogs?
Like a little dog coat and cap
Why can't I do that?
Ok
I am getting off the point here
And my tongue was firmly in my cheek when I wrote that last post
Please don't take me seriously
What I really wanted to talk about was getting married
I don't know if I want to get married
Not that I have the opportunity or anything
But in general I don't think I want to get married
Maybe because I have seen so many marriages fail
Including my own parents
I was never one of those people who dreamed of a white wedding ever since I was a child
If I was ever to get married
It would be a very small affair
And it would be short
Weddings are just too long
A whole day
And most of it waiting for this and for that
No thank you very much
Maybe that would all change if I met the right person
Maybe if I fell in love I would really want to get married
But forever is a long time
And things change
People change
I can't promise you that I will be the same person in 20 years as I am today
I can't promise I will be faithful
I can't predict the future
I can do my best
But that's about it
When I was with my ex boyfriend
We promised to stay together forever
To always be true and loyal
But that didn't happen
We drifted apart
Grew apart
It happens
And if we had got married
It would have been a lot trickier to get out of
I must come across as very cynical
And maybe I am
I know people get married for security
For the children
But it's a very expensive mistake to make to marry the wrong person
Not to mention the fallout with children
Having said all that
I have seen marriages work
I have seen two people fall in love over and over again
I know that it can work
And it must be amazing when it does
But me?
I''m just not willing to take that chance
Not yet any way
With all that said
I was wondering about you
Do you think you will ever get married?
Maybe you are married
Is it all you thought it would be?
