Scott writes:
One thing I’ve noticed is that we introverts tend to think extroverts want to be our friends when they sometimes don’t. They are just being themselves whereas oftentimes when introverts act like extroverts we are trying to be friends with someone.
I suppose that may well be true. I don’t really pursue friendships anymore for whatever reason. There are definitely people I know who I would like to say, “Hey I would like to be platonic friends with you (no dating) if you don’t mind?” These are mostly like young women aged 20-24 or so. Other than that, I have all sorts of casual acquaintances all over town, but I don’t really hang or even converse at length with any of them except maybe a handful, and I rarely talk to those people. I talk to the guys at the corner market, a guy at the health clinic and few people in my complex and that’s about it! I don’t hang out with any of them. None of them come over or call.
Mostly people who make friends with me for a couple of decades or so have come right out and more or less asked to be friends with me. “Hey, can we go grab a cup of coffee? Hey Bob, you are welcome over here at my place anytime you want. Why don’t you come over some evening? Wow, you really get the chicks, ladies man – you seem like the kind of guy I need to hang out with!”
That’s all from guys. Mostly I never went for coffee, I never went over to those guys’ homes, and I never hung out with the other guy.
Sometimes in a bar, I make friends with some guys and hang out with them most of the night, but that is just for an evening. Sometimes they give me some woman’s phone number, “Hey, here’s this 35 year old Mexican woman I know. She’s good looking, and loves to fuck and suck cock. She has a couple of kids. Can you speak Spanish? It will help.” So I call the woman, and it never goes anywhere.
Or late at night outside the bar, the pisas say, “Hey let’s go get a 12 pack and go somewhere with a bunch of guys and drink it. Our place or yours.” I turn them down.
I simply don’t hang out anymore really, and if I do hang out, I only want to hang out with women to be honest, and that should be sexual, romance or both. On the other hand, it would be cool to have some beautiful young women as platonic friends.
Hell with hanging out with guys, screw that.
I have a lot of male friends, but I don’t really hang with them. Just talk a lot on the Net and at times the phone.
I am just not a social butterfly anymore.
