Instead of answering a question about the status of a relationship, some people will put you in time out. As if to say, “you better not ask these questions again or you will be put in time out again!” We remember how bad time out is right?”
Time to think In Relationships.
When have you taken this time?
Where does one go during the time they think about this relationship?
Is there a time limit?
“Hey Jon, well it’s been a week and a half is the thinking time up yet?”
NO ONE DOES THIS!
If someone says they need to time to think they are punishing you from bringing up the topic. Adult Time Out. Instead of answering a question about the status of a relationship, some people will put you in time out. As if to say, “you better not ask these questions again or you will be put in time out again!” We remember how bad time out is right?”
Don’t agree to time out! Say, that you don’t need time to think about what you want.
Example:
“Hey Mark well it’s been a week and a half. Is the thinking time up yet?”
NO ONE DOES THIS!
If someone says, “they need to take sometime to think,” they are considering the pro’s and con’s surrounding a new job prospect, allowing their child to do this or that, or playing a triviality game where a time limit or request to take a time out is applicable.
Adult Time Out.
You thought time out was over once you hit adulthood didn’t you? Well guess what? The punishment or executing this type of learning to behave through eliminating all the fun can apparently involve adults.
Example:
Karen: “Hey Jon It’s October so I wanted to know if your ready to move closer like you said. I wouldn’t press it, only that you volunteered moving closer after October so I was just going to follow your lead.”
Jon: “Look, I think I need to take sometime think.”
YOU ARE OFFICIALLY IN TIME OUT!
How dare you ask a normal question? Well, Jon is making his girlfriend in this example, try to regret she ever brought up normalcy. He wants her to feel, “Don’t you do that normal stuff again or you know what happens!”
What Happens Next.
Well you love him so you freak. He takes a weekend to “not think about anything,” and you cry while reaching a new height of paranoia you didn’t think was possible. After punishment is over, you are scared to death Mr. Brilliant will need time to think again, and you could barely handle it the first time so you zip it.
What You Should Do.
Jon: “Look, I think I need sometime to think.”
Karen: Smile (eyes making a “you’re weird ,” face
Karen: “About what?”
Jon: “Well just where my career/life/shoes are going..”
Karen: “Well that’s weird. I don’t need time to think. I also know your full of shit. Call me when you want to answer a question that shouldn’t even cause a fight.”
HE THROWS A FIT-KEEP WALKING!
He calls, and says something to try to get under your skin. You hang up.
Wait In Hell.
Unfortunately, paranoia weekend still ensues and begins. Your still worried because we can’t help that.
- At least this time your paranoid without submitting to be placed in adult time out, and engaging his behavior.
- At least you don’t have to be a party to play pretending. Or play along and accept your time out and his time not thinking. Was this not covered in age 1-8?
Jon begins to take sometime to ponder this whole situation on day 1 and 1/2. But Not About The Simple Question that He Refuses To Answer.
After Jon shits himself on day two.
When he say’s, he is so-so sorry and blames his momentary lapse in mind usage on someone’s death (he never knew the person or they passed away when he was three) or something, let it go BUT NOT WITHOUT saying, “
“Hey Jon It’s October so I wanted to know if your ready to move closer like you said?”
REPEAT IF NEEDED OR, IF JON SAYS, “We will talk about it later.”
Repeat.
Remember The Morale Of The Story!
Don’t agree to time out!
- Say, that you don’t need time to think about what you want.
- Put him in time out until he or she comes back and makes some since. “I am sorry,” is not an acceptable come back.
- Answering your question is acceptable if he or she comes back realizing that only toddlers are put in time out and not adults engaging in behavior you both have created.
