I’m 23 years old and generally considered good looking and very intelligent, but I’ve never had any success with girls. I’ve been going to prostitutes once a month, and though they’re always lovely, in the end I feel horrible for doing this, instead of managing to get a girl by myself. Is there something I can do to be more attractive to women?
I’ve written on several occasions about how men can be more attractive to women; probably the best one for your purposes would be “Never Let ‘Em See You Sweat“. But since I’ve already answered that question, I’m going to ask you one instead: What the hell do you mean by “I feel horrible for doing this, instead of managing to get a girl by myself“? It seems to me that you are getting girls “by yourself”, in whatever quantity you can afford and whatever type you like. Do you mean someone else is paying for you, and that you’re concerned he might stop at some point? Or are you using counterfeit money or a stolen credit card, and feel horrible for hurting others by your theft? Or is it that you imagine paying directly with cash to be somehow morally inferior to paying indirectly with presents and entertainment? Surely you don’t feel “horrible” for fairly paying a woman the price she wants, instead of tricking her with bullshit…is it that you actually know the price and what you’re getting for it, rather than getting sex of indeterminate quality for a hidden price you won’t know until it’s too late, that could even include legal proceedings against you and/or two-decade long financial obligations? Because honestly, that doesn’t seem like something any sane man would prefer…is it a kink of some kind? Because if so, I’m sure you could find a professional who’d help you to indulge it far more safely than experimenting with some possibly-unbalanced and certainly-unpredictable amateur. Or maybe you’re laboring under the misapprehension that “real” men get sex for “free”, or something like that? Because I can guarantee you that isn’t the case; every man pays, and the only thing that varies is the method of payment. Help me out here, sweetheart; I simply can’t wrap my head around what you’re trying to say.
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