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Living Alone and Loving It.10 Tips to Help You Grow Into the Person Who Will Fill Your Empty Nest

Posted on the 23 August 2016 by Bonsoni.com @bonsoni

I & rsquo; t know, but I remember when I spent my adolescence broaching, write poetry hours furiously in my room. I was technically too young to write Blase love. But I did it. now have limited my own experience, I've had enough examples around around me, kick love & rsquo; Disappointments. Then there was the issue of war and pain, inequality and sometimes absurd.

Living Alone and Loving It.10 Tips to Help You Grow Into the Person Who Will Fill Your Empty NestI wrote about it too. Occasionally I & rsquo; D write really something light and hope. Must have demonstrated that the benefits of aromatherapy always because of the different scents of candles. I & rsquo; m pretty sure it was not and rsquo; t Jimmie Hendrix and John Lennon give me my ephemeral optimism.
My room was always my feeling and lsquo; Haven of peace and rsquo;. I locked behind these four walls as Anne Frank hid from the Nazis. It was the place where I could not do my cynicism, my anger, my hope and dream. My walls were coated with hellip McCartney, and McCartney and; .ugh and hellip; McCartney have not mentioned? If any of you do not know that you should McCartney and rsquo; t read this.
Also I have time to brush 100 strokes at night in my paradise my waist-length hair. I painted toenails and threw cigarette smoke in the window of my room. Like I do not know and rsquo parents. I spent a lot of time, they also understand. He had time for any rock band with a hairbrush as a microphone to sing while thousands of people (in my head, of course) furiously applauded my singing skills.
I had the best time!
Then I grew up. More or less. But in my despair as a woman of Peter Pan attempt, got married, children, mortgage payments, Packed Lunches, Ironing pretty little dresses, little patent leather shoes had sanded, French Hair learned Zopf, they learned English -braid hair ( there is actually a difference), followed by school programs, love letters written in the hearts of my daughters, divorced, signed tasks, helped words to memorize vocabulary, helped reunite for a school project and brand share, are based in a school project an Indian village helped parts of the human lung helped for a drawing school project and identify, remained awake at night, when she was suffering from high fever and the next day's work was lost, so he could treat health, remained awake at night, when N & rsquo; t know where the hell were and still went to work the next day so all we could eat, planned and paid for birthday gifts, graduations, bridal showers, weddings, baby showers and gifts between all that.
He had no time for me. And I knew.
So when I found myself in almost 25 years only, for the first time, I was desperate to find and ldquo; Peter Pan & quot; in me again. Now I'd bring something now that some of you might think that we can clear the air right at the front. You may think I'm a very selfish person because people only long selfish and ldquo; Only time and rdquo;. It is possible that & rsquo; I've re married with children or who may have, if I wanted desperately to develop difficulties in maintaining and ldquo as a person and as the years of motherhood sometimes it is; me & quot; rich alive and whole. Perhaps some of you are even brave enough I think, N & rsquo; t really have the ability to love my children, like a mother to love.
Perhaps I & rsquo; m, those of you actually think and lsquo; Think & rsquo; these things are not brave enough to be honest with others and, above all, themselves. All parents who never actually practiced as a mother or father has a secure job he was lost in the process. It & rsquo; s course. Parenting is difficult. It & rsquo; It is a full time job, often intertwined with full-time work. It & rsquo; s intestines. It & rsquo; s 24/7 25 years per child. It is also the most valuable blessing that God can give us. Raising itself is a mirror, forcing us to see without blinkers for the first time in our lives. - - And if we deny ourselves these eyes I can promise you that our children brings our attention, unfortunately! And don & rsquo; Not even ask for your help. They willingly - and usually with an attitude!
Thank God for our children! We would never have become what we are without them in our lives.
But we think it would have always gone now. Children are gone. You & rsquo; I've moved. Now they have their own children. Miraculously, they are trying to figure out what the hell you were so tired and worried all these years. Now they and rsquo; They have suddenly realized that hats are great pieces of clothing in the months of December to February. Suddenly, your children want to take a nap. But now they can rsquo; t.
However you can! Therefore, let and rsquo; s conversation.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with parents to be a good battle between father and when looking only developing self coveting. We are supposed to be role models for our children; not only of circus clowns, Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, and an ATM. What will never, if we change and rsquo; t they show that and lsquo; Evolution and rsquo; Similar. We must assume 25 years ago left behind, and create again and again, so that we can show our children what we have learned throughout. We need to show our grandchildren that life and rsquo; s dynamics doesn & rsquo; t stop and just because lsquo; ; The left & rsquo children. Life & rsquo; Momentum continues as we enter these grandchildren - and, if God our time on earth is - great-grandchildren!
But if you and rsquo; re feeling that his whole life and rsquo; s has moved and moves the end to leave - and rsquo; s think about how you can keep them - and indeed, to offer more with these precious souls in the end, they are no longer in their daily care.
Tip # 1: Visit the hobby that has dropped because parents time
Maybe you have to sing concerts or plays in a group or go. Perhaps one has to be a member of a company or relax at the local theater. You can one of those talented people working in stained glass or paint or draw. I & rsquo; t be very careful when you paint by numbers. Only painting for crying out loud - if that and rsquo (!) Is that what you want before the children liked to do over. Do you have a green thumb? Then plant a garden. Are you ready? Then make your Christmas gifts all year. If you and rsquo; rather with wood and hellip; apply the principle in the preceding sentence. If you have loved, always write - either poetry or prose - Run a pen or a Word document and make again. Who knows? You could be the next best author New York Times!
Tip # 2: Fitness
Perhaps you used to go to the gym or play tennis or golf. Do you have a great walker or stroller? Did you like yoga or dancing? There may come a time when you were able to make the children or spouse responsible for their lack of discipline and / or time. But now he has a lot of time. (You & rsquo; ll have the discipline and hellip;). Later
Check discounted membership prey local gyms. Some gyms run offers throughout the year; But more deals just after Christmas and just before the summer of execution. You don & rsquo; t the next Mr. or Ms. Universe has to be. Take simply healthier. Get toned. If the Aren and rsquo machines; Does your bag, register in aerobics or yoga classes. And ldquo; Zumba and rdquo; is relatively new Latin dance training, which can be taught to advanced levels of experience a lot of beginners. It & rsquo; s a great workout and lots of fun and hellip; especially for lovers of Latin music!
Check your local dance studies and enroll in a dance class two nights a week. There are all kinds of dance classes there - just in case the ISN and rsquo ballroom dancing; If your speed. You can learn salsa, merengue, country dancing, random, East Coast and West Coast random. The list is long. You don & rsquo; t always have a partner, as some group classes welcome individual students without a partner. There is always the possibility of a little more money and train with the dance teacher pay for one-on-one. That and rsquo; It's always fun!
In most cities, the YMCA offers a variety of fitness equipment fitness facilities, aerobics, tai chi and yoga to basketball courts, indoor and indoor pools and saunas. - It is a product of & ldquo; Swimman waterproof iPod Shuffle and rdquo;. Now you can round off the music and one of my friends from social networks - - make a passionate swimmer swears by it!
Never underestimate the joy of their own homes as & lsquo; Training Center & rsquo;! As long as you have a floor, and from the sofa, you can rip DVD to various steps and other aerobic training and toning DVD. Instantly and rsquo; have a group of partners such as fitness mind there on the TV! You can go at your own pace and routines change, if you invest a little money to provide variety. In addition, with an investment of around $ 100 you can get a stationary bike or mini trampoline used an ad, plop buy directly in front of your TV and the pedal or pounds jogging, while watching your favorite TV show . Personally, I think the music pedal or run a lot more fun. Especially if the music is fast paced with a good pace, constant, you want to move, she makes you. Of course, for 25 to 45 minutes to dance your favorite music is also a good way to lose weight.
Any suggestions here can be very effective if you agree with three or four times to do for 25 to 45 minutes per week. Be creative! Choose an activity that you enjoy doing, and do it!
Tip 3: Start a journal
AGREEMENT. This difference due to start writing a book. However, it is not true and rsquo; t for the first time a & rsquo; s and lsquo; Journal & rsquo; It became a bestseller. It & rsquo; s happened before. It can happen again. But the purpose of logging and is not as lsquo; Editorial and rsquo; as it is an exercise in introspection and expression. It & rsquo; It's a great stress reliever, too, and a conscious level of these responses often offer can maintain a subconscious level.
Take a few minutes each day on that day to capture and rsquo; Experiments. Start with these things in your life that you are grateful for. Focus on your blessings; no drawbacks. However, write what you feel, and don & rsquo; t judge of what is written as and ldquo; Law & rdquo; or & ldquo; bad & quot ;; And ldquo; good & quot; or & ldquo; And rdquo;. To be bad. Don & rsquo; t worry even fragments and / or punctuation. It is N & rsquo; t English class. It & rsquo; s logging. If you are stressed as and lsquo; Sounds & rsquo; You defeat the purpose.
Tip # 4: become a student of better money management
Unless you and rsquo; re and to finance a genius (I & rsquo; no psychic, but I & rsquo; d dare say most of us aren and rsquo; t), check your workshops of the local community and seminars that teach the tricks of handling money and investments. This can special events that are a little beyond the circus in your city, or you can run workshops, which are held by community colleges or local Chamber of Commerce. Anyway, you can learn a lot from these events and can feel safe to do so, because if any of them had a handle in the room, which wouldn & rsquo; t is in the seminar. But the others are on the way to create wealth and can definitely spend time with people. We and rsquo; to talk and ldquo; Development and rdquo; here, right? Your finances are no exception. This activity is in many ways on a daily basis provide to look at your life, and possibly a recovery Y.O.U.
Tip 5: Read
Whoaaa! Now I know that I & rsquo; I am of the skin, some of you fear. But R.E.A.D. OK is a four letter word! Not a bad influence on their children and grandchildren when they come to visit when you need to put your book on the coffee table to open the door. It & rsquo; s OK when the phone rings and someone asked, and ldquo; Hello, what he was doing? & Quot; She said: & ldquo; I have read and rdquo. I know that N & rsquo; t against the law.
Well, if you want to grow and become a better person you are, you may want to read biographies of successful people or books to be considered self-improvement that teach life skills better and more purpose. Wouldn & rsquo; t be really great if I could be an example for your children and grandchildren how to do?
Turn on the TV: Tip # 6
Hear. It & rsquo; my personal opinion is that television really doesn & rsquo; t & lsquo; us company and rsquo;. It keeps us stuck. A show occasionally with half decent content can be fun, can provide laughter, and - if we are really lucky - can even offer a large music or theater. But I know too many people who see fictional characters every week these characters try to solve damn life. Rather than watch someone else and lsquo; have a life and rsquo; - Create a life for yourself! Go to Borders and a cup of something and looking for a good book. There are chances that if you know someone interesting rsquo; -- Back in and rsquo; ll they have much in common. Start a conversation. Be accessible. hellip and not for romantic reasons; & Ldquo; People & rdquo; Reasons. You have enough time to maintain friendships. Remember, it was 20 years ago that would have sold a lung for the opportunity to be home alone and depend borders. due; Hang, for heaven and rsquo!
Tip 7: Learning a new skill
What is the word on the fact that you confuse and hellip; And ldquo; learn & quot;, & ldquo; new & quot; or & ldquo; Skills & rdquo;? Do you have any idea how many ways to learn in the world? Many colleges, universities and community colleges offer courses such as & ldquo; Audits and rdquo;. You don & rsquo; t have to pay for the course, since it is not only deserves -- loan information and new knowledge. These courses are offered in a variety of disciplines of religious studies in science to photography vegan culinary creative writing skills in windsurfing. Again loves everyone. - And the really interesting part of this whole idea is that doesn and rsquo; matter what others think. It & rsquo; It is all about you! You can learn to play a better game, what game is that you and rsquo; play again. But you have to play !! If there and rsquo; and it is so long that you and rsquo; have been thinking about what is what really ignites, take a moment and think of time as a chicken, they were carried out to cut the head. Run the ball games, dance, children's medical appointments, pharmacies, conferences parent / teacher, choir practices, Scouts and Guides. Take the kids to the movies and get it, because somehow their children they believe is the only parent with time and a car. (Can you believe we believe?)
So what do you dream in particular moments in your heart when you said, and ldquo; Boy, if I had more time I & rsquo; ______________ Love and rdquo !; Can you fill in the blank? That's what you have to go to learn more about it. Or you can learn how to do that instead of sending video and audio communications in an e-mail to friends to write a message. You can learn how to organize all your online accounts with various software programs that are on the market. You can learn to make your own greeting cards. And if you know how something that other people want to learn about writing your own ebook - to do!
Tip 8: Invite friends for dinner

Yes, my friends. I know you have. You & rsquo; re people we spoke to in the Tip # 5 to be called by phone and interrupt your reading. He likes to eat and would like a free meal. But if you and rsquo; Re not inclined to cook, or how you feel and rsquo; a threat to their friends and would rsquo; - Health to invite for dinner and meet their favorite place. There are chances that were stuck in a rut, too, and really enjoy the house. (I can see almost red checkered tablecloths.)

Tip # 9: A vision board something you want to create
I do not know exactly what you want in your life that ISN and rsquo; t time in your life. Only you know. But I urge that everything he does in his life began to remember that an idea, a dream or a vision. If you own a home, you probably had an idea at some point in his life he wanted to own a house. Then over time we went through various stages before buying the house. They do not and rsquo; t just wake up one day and find a home, participate in a bank to get the money and sales agreement, and to walk in the presence of the seller with your offer. If you just happen to you, then the mail and ldquo book I recommend you write; How to buy a house in a day and rdquo; (Tip # 7). But like most people find the house was initially a wish or a dream that would have this kind of home made considering similar the owner. - Sometime after many challenges and strategic planning - you are a homeowner. This is the way to buy anything else in life, we want to do or accomplish.
A vision board is just a visual format of a dream or desire. If there and rsquo; s tropical vacation you want, game full of images of dream holiday destination a bulletin board. You can do as a collage or just stay in your photos directly on the scoreboard. You can rent a car or a boat you want. Or you may have a goal in mind, which is less tangible in nature, such as weight loss and muscle gain or become a better skier, golfer or fisherman. You may want a change of vocation. What you need to see those goals out for you? Maybe you really want to move to a warmer climate. Create a vision board with pictures of the exact city where you want to move. Includes photos of houses, golf courses, restaurants, shopping center, mountains or sea fronts, aerial view of the landscape of your favorite and ldquo; Origin and rdquo;. The council vision is what you want to achieve or receive, so, do no right or wrong there. There are also electronic versions of vision boards with slide shows that can be placed on the desktop for frequent viewing. If the board decides to use ad version, be sure to place where they make it have a very frequent exposure on a daily basis. If you spend much time on the computer, place it on your desktop securely connected to the wall before their eyes. You have no choice but to seek all day often. This is the first thing you see in the morning and the last thing you see at night. Trust me. He is approaching its destination - what destination you choose - just implement this simple idea.
So does the visiplate to create and rsquo; t must be conducted in a single shot. It can be created over time. It may take as your desire or goal is developed. The desire or goal will, the vision board and Vision Board will help create, create desire or purpose. You will be amazed by the results!
Tip # 10: Decide what you want to do for the rest of your life
And ldquo; Decision & quot; It is a great word! No decision, nothing else happens. We all spend about eight to ten hours of sleep some work to do every day. Even for those who are retired or semi-retired, there is something that attracts attention their hours, if not sleep.
If you and rsquo; I still go back to work, you are actually doing the kind of work that you enjoy doing. Or is it just a means to an end? His work is nothing more than the salary at the end of the week? I know that everyone can not just let & ldquo; Employment and rdquo; and their lives and to make rsquo; Passion. But for those of you who have the ability to do this, so please long, please, as you now understand themselves assigned. Obviously, only you can decide whether you can afford. Perhaps you can rsquo; t afford not to. Either way, come to a decision, because it really wants to spend each day. For those of you who have continued to work full-time job, maybe there's something you enjoy doing part time for extra income, or where appropriate, on a voluntary basis. Have you always had a passion for nursing? Do you like working with geriatric patients? Like the laughter and energy of young children? Like libraries, galleries or museums? Every community has many opportunities for paraprofessionals and volunteers in each of these areas. Often the director welcome experienced workers in finding additional help human resources because they know the work ethic and the experience and confidence they bring to the table.
Now I & rsquo; m feeling that many of you like to start your own business - maybe until ready for use even on a part-time basis. What is the vocation you've always wanted to do? Please don & rsquo; t Say & ldquo; IT & rsquo; late & quot; or & ldquo; my age and rdquo ?; On the one hand, and rsquo; it is never too late. Also, if you and rsquo; RE 60 years, so you don & rsquo; to pursue his passion t in the next five years, I & rsquo; M & rsquo seems; They have not yet paid off 65 years after the next five years ahead. Maybe you can also go!

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Living Alone and Loving It.10 Tips to Help You Grow Into the Person Who Will Fill Your Empty Nest
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