I can’t believe I’m up at 10am on a Saturday morning with my beloved furry sidekick and a cup of Kona Chocolate Macadamia nut coffee. Since I’m up earlier then my normal rising time of 12 noon, I decided to once again get my thoughts out.
My mind is on social media and the role it plays in our romantic relationships. I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve heard of things going bad in relationships because of social media and the internet. Your partner has accessed your email accounts, an ex has contacted your partner on Facebook, unknown people are flirting with your partner online, or maybe you have a huge amount of Facebook friends & Twitter followers and your partner is jealous. The list of potential problems goes on and on. All of these things spell Trouble with a capital T!
Social media has opened up a whole new can of worms. I’ve seen private fights go public, bitter ex’s attack, baby momma drama, and enough scandal for me to sit at my computer with a freshly popped bag of popcorn and take it all in. People no longer take their fights to the street, they take them to Facebook!
For the life of me, I can’t figure out why ex partners seem to request you as a friend on Facebook out of the blue. I also can’t figure out why people accept the connection when they’re in a relationship with someone else. The only thing I can think of is curiosity; I don’t think there’s a person alive who hasn’t wondered how an ex flame life has turned out after you’ve parted ways. Now I don’t necessarily see anything wrong with someone wanting to say “Hi, how’s your life going” but some will launch a full vendetta to get you back using social media as a start. It will start off innocently enough with a hello, an innocent hello then becomes I miss you, and then they follow you on every social media website your apart of. They’ll comment on all your Facebook statuses, retweet all your tweets, and then start sending you private messages that’s flirty in nature. Now would be the time for you to remove them but do we? No, we continue the connection out of curiosity and we all know what happened to curiosity, it killed the cat.
There are plenty of different scenarios that can play out when we participate in online activities. These activities can’t kill your relationship unless you let it. You control who you let into your social circle and you have the ability to decline any connections from people who may be a threat to your current relationship. If you value the current relationship you’re in then there’s no need to e-mail , accept friend request, or engage in any type of online or offline activity with an ex partner. At some point, the shit will hit the fan and major damage can be done, drama! Don’t let social media ruin a good relationship; just say no, it’s that simple. If your partner is the initiator of the contact, this would be a good time for you to re-evaluate your relationship and possibly update your info to single on Facebook. Initiating and maintaining contact with an ex partner or anybody else in an inappropriate way is never a good sign, I don’t think there’s a person I know who would be comfortable with their partner being bosom buddies with an ex, or a new found friend online or offline. Do you agree?
