Choosing A Loving Relationship: With Rights Come Responsibilities!
Do you believe you deserve a loving relationship?
Not just intellectual belief. But I really want to know – do you believe and know with every fiber of your being that you have the right to be nurtured, loved, and cherished by the one you have chosen to be in a relationship with?
A loving relationship is your right. But to experience that right, you must choose.
There’s a lot of people who talk about freedom of choice in different contexts. But one of the most fundamental forms of freedom of choice and the right to happiness has to do with our belief about the relationships we think we deserve. 
We are free to choose our relationships. It sounds obvious – but do you realize this right isn’t guaranteed everywhere on the globe? Look in the news today – there are many places where choosing a relationship with someone other than who your society says you should, can result in consequences.
Grasp the freedom you have? You don’t have to be a relationship victim: you have the right to choose! When I consider that right, it makes me feel so blessed to live in a country with all the freedoms that allow me and every other citizen the opportunity to make these choices.
So how is it that so many relationships are not loving and so many couples are faced with boredom, stagnation, conflict and angst? Are they not choosing well? Are they not defending their choice? Or are they not exercising the responsibilities that come with choices?
- To have a loving relationship, we put our efforts on doing all the things to achieve success.
- We focus on the positive.
- We make goals and we follow through.
- We treat obstacles as opportunities.
- We make our relationship a priority and follow through with actions congruent with our choice.
- We honor our right to choose our partner and promise to uphold our vows till death do us part.
Victor Frankel, in his book Man’s Search for Meaning, shows us how the prisoners were able to make choices even though they were doomed to suffering and death.
“We who lived in the concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way” (65-66).
Isn’t this the gift life gives us? The freedom to choose. From choosing a presidential candidate to choosing a loving relationship, the choice is ours and how we choose makes all the difference.
It is my mission to help couples to look at the choices they have made and the vows they have spoken and then to help them develop the skills and sense of responsibility to nurture the relationships they have chosen. It is my mission to help them feel empowered.
Is your relationship a place where you are empowered and empower your partner? If not, you have the right to choose to learn the skills you need. Make that decision for yourself today!
