Beatrix writes:
I have a question for all you “Manly Men” out there…..
A colleague of mine (a Jewish male psychiatrist) says that any man that is friends with a woman has either -A) hopes to have sex with the woman
or
B) has had sex in the past with that woman & hopes to again
Do you think it’s true that the only reason a man would maintain a friendship with a woman is due to some potential sexual gain?
In a way, it is sort of true, I will admit it.
Have you ever known any true, pure, real womanizers, ladies men or players?
I have known some guys like this. They love women and girls. They are often very close to their mothers and female cousins and aunts. They don’t like guys very much and most of their friends are women and girls. These guys are not out to fuck all of their female friends.
Sex very much gets in the way of friendships with males and females. Even if you don’t care about having sex with them, after a while, you often end up in bed with them anyway. At least I do.
I really like to have friendships with females where the sex part is ruled out very early on. Then we can just be friends. But probably she will try to fuck me at some point I suppose because they usually do.
What you do as a man is “leave the door open.” You agree to be friends with them or don’t bug them for sex. Some of my best female friends were married women, but after a while, I usually ended up sleeping with them. You just accept that you are friends and leave them alone and let them do whatever they want to. If they want to grab you, let them. Don’t bug them or pester them.
I know some young women and we got it out of the way real fast that they only wanted to be friends. I found it very liberating because now we know what the score is and we don’t have all this uncertainty. I would very much enjoy a friendship like that with a young woman at my age, but I would always “leave the door open.”
Thing is that women are very sexual. Friendships between men and women don’t really work because women are very sexual too and find it hard to just be friends with a man, maybe especially if he is sexy. So even if you leave her alone and don’t make a play for her, after she hangs around you for a while, she often tries to seduce you.
But a lot of men are dishonest about male female friendships and they are just trying to fuck her. But most guys don’t really love women like those players do. So really the only reason a guy like that would tolerate being around a woman all the time is for the sex.
And I have known some super Omega type guys who had friendships with women who they had no desire to screw.
I have always tried to fuck all of my female friends at one point or another I think, unless they are obviously married. If they just want to be friends, they shoot me down angrily and then you just make some sort of “let’s be friends” agreement, and really should not violate that, but you “open the door,” and “leave the door open.”
I have been “opening the door” and “leaving the door open” for women and girls my whole life and a lot of them just go for it and make moves on me and start trying to have sex with me. A lot of get sort of frustrated and angry that I won’t move on them. I have heard stuff like, “Aren’t you going to kiss me or what!?” or “Well are you going to try to fuck me or not? Come on! What’s with you?” Of course once I get the green light, I just do it.
Thing is at our age, a lot of people just don’t even fuck at all anymore. Look at the statistics for sexual frequency of married couples between ages 55-60.
Guys who are not attractive in some way can have lots of female friends, but I have had some male friends who were total lady killers, the type every other woman would want to jump on, and yeah, they had a lot of female friends but they usually ended up screwing them sooner or later.
The point I was trying to make is that females do this as often as males. The problem with straight men and women is we want to fuck each other. If your platonic female friend is a Hotty, there is a sexual tension introduced into the friendship. If your platonic male friend is a Sex God, it is going to be hard for a woman to keep it platonic. He’s so sexy that she is just going to try to fuck him at some point or another. So really it works both ways. But platonic stuff between heterosexuals is problematic not only because the guy wants to screw the girl, but I have found that in many cases, the girl wants to screw the guy, especially if he is a hot, sexy type.
So really sex just gets in the way of straight male-female friendships in general.
One thing that is very nice about female friends is they usually have lots of girlfriends or female roommates or coworkers or whatever, and sooner or later, you usually fuck her roommate or best friend, usually because they try to seduce you. And your platonic female friends are usually trying to fix you up with their hottie friends. So you get dates with their friends and that often works into sex.
Not sure why they do that, but platonic stuff with women usually leads to sex in one way or another you see. You either screw the platonic female friend at some point, or you screw her friends/roommates, etc. or she starts fixing you up with her friends and you screw them. It’s just generally going to end up in pussy territory on the Platonic Yellow Chick Road sooner or later, which is why I always liked platonic friendships with females.
