I have been a member of Emma’s group for about two years and I can honestly say I “talk” more to these people than I do to my own sister. The mum’s I like and care about I look out for and make sure I comment on their posts, I ask after their kids and try to help them when they need it. I enjoy the group and it provides me with support answers and laughs in a way that my own sister cant.
She can’t because she is a compulsive liar. I am not saying that she fibs occasionally, she lies about EVERYTHING and it is getting to a point where I cannot talk to her as every single thing she says is bull sh*t.
My sister is nine years older than me and I have known from a young age that she would lie to make herself look clever, I assumed that it was just an age thing. She would tell my mom things I had said and done, not things that would get me in to trouble but silly things that just made no sense. If I questioned her or denied what she said she would call me the liar and go off in a strop. Sadly she never grew out of this.
My husband often asks me why we never question her on her lies, and honestly it’s because it doesn’t help! She will fall out with me for a few days then carry on as normal and keep lying! .
But recently things have become a lot worse; since she and her husband separated her lies have become larger and more dangerous. She has accused my brother of sexually assaulting her when she was a child; she has accused her ex of physically and sexually assaulting her over the course of their relationship. But the worst thing is that she says these things in front of her twelve year old daughter.
Even when she trips herself up on a lie, or someone else dose, especially her kids, she will blow up start shouting and keep lying, she cannot admit to EVER being wrong.
I don’t know how to tell her that every time she starts my bull sh*t meter goes off, so I avoid her and hope that one day she will learn and stop the crap, but let’s face it she is nearly 40 now and still at it!
So I would like to thank all the truthful wonderful mums on the group who I think of as my surrogate sisters! I really do need you; THIS IS NO LIE.
