WOMEN and SELF-LOVE | #StopJudging My Women's Day Message To All Of You!

By Shoppingaholic @shoppingaholicc
Being a female and meeting a number of other females in my life, being a part of their experiences, I want to share what needs to be told, repeated until we get it. 
Hint: #SELFLOVE is on top.

So, this women's day, promise yourself that you will stand for -


 1. What you are doing and what others are doing.
This includes everything you or others are doing. If you want to take rest after a busy day, doesn't matter whether you work outside of your home or inside it, just delegate the tasks and take rest. Similarly, there are many other occasions like going to a party, or not going to a party, if you just want to be a housewife, if you are in a job and want to continue it etc. etc. etc. I know when kids are involved, things get more complicated and God has given us the emotions and reasons to be emotional in ample. Work it- Talk to your partner.  I promise - he would understand if you understand him and if he loves you. He would love you when you would love yourself. TRUST!!
 2. You will walk your path (first) and then help others walk theirs.
There is just one rule : 
You can give others what you have!

3. You won't judge yourself using others eyes and won't judge others using yours.
This is the common one. I'd give you an example from my life-- one of my sisters-in-law passed a comment when I wore chooridar (leggings) with my kurtis. She said, "I don't like or wear leggings because my husband and brother-in-law make fun of girls who wear it and they don't approve of this."(She judged her choice of wearing leggings from her husband and brother-in-law's eyes) She didn't want me to wear it either. (She judged me for wearing it too.)
Although, she started wearing leggings with her kurtas (probably because I didn't stop wearing them.)
 4. The way you or others appearances are if this is what you or they want.
It's fine if you like tattoos. It's fine if you have crazy colours in your hair. It's okay if smoke or drink. It's okay if like wearing sneakers with your suits. I have judged all this at one point in time but I don't do it anymore because I have raised my awareness a little and have realized that they all are humans -- very good humans made of flesh and bones.
 5. How we are raising our children. Just make sure they are loved, guided and scolded wherever the need be.
Ah! How many times I have seen people judging others for how they raise their kids. Another real-life example -- Someone I know, let's call her C1, stopped taking her 2 years old in lap while moving from place A to place B. Someone else whom I know, let's call her C2, judged her and called out on her parenting skills. Little she knew that C1 was a single mother (recently divorced) and she wanted to make her child tough (probably she wanted to make herself tough because of all the pain she was going through). I totally get it. Even if it wasn' the case, we are not supposed to opine without knowing. But how would you know? By being a little compassionate, offering help, or just asking! If you can't show compassion, offer help or ask for XYZ reasons -- you are supposed to zip it.
On top of anything - let's free ourselves of any burden we think we "should" carry. 
S.H.O.U.L.D.s are the burden. They are cage we confine ourselves in because we are running on auto-pilot. Get rid of "shoulds" in your life!
Auto-pilot in human life is what we HAVE BEEN habitual of thinking or doing since through experiences that does NOT serve us in our wellbeing.

Happy Women's Day!

Before you go -


Ask away any questions you have. Show me your take on what I have mentioned in this post. Maybe I get something to learn and know more than what I already do.

Love and Light


SSU

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