” When you truly care for someone, you don’t look for faults. You don’t look for an answer. You don’t look for mistakes. Instead, you fight for the mistakes. You accept the faults and you overlook excuses.” By doing so we are not actually helping him to grow. We are the obstruction to his growth. As a true friend and well wisher it is our duty to rectify the faults of a person and help him grow constantly.
The intention is not to make everybody look at others mistakes but not to overlook one a potential damager. Some of the bad qualities will be easier to nip at the stage of a bud. If you let them grow they root themselves so strongly into a person that you need a life time to uproot them from him.
When we are accepting/supporting whatever a friend does irrespective of whether the activity is good or bad we are actually spoiling the spirit of true friendship. A true friend who is not selfish, who does not expect momentary gains from us praises us during our success and provides us with a positive criticism when we feel we have succeeded but when we are actually not. He also gives us the required support in whatever way he can when we fail at some point in our life.
Happy Friendship Day
Just when you know from inside that you are supporting a wrong deed of your friend or someone else in your life put a question to yourself that Am I doing the right thing? In most of the cases you do it because you afraid of losing the other person’s friendship or you feel not to have a dispute with someone else. This is true to some extent. If you are courageous enough, raise your voice to say that he has a done a mistake if he really did. Keep in mind you suggest him in confidence when both of you are socializing. If you do it in public you are actually making a mistake. There are two reasons for this, Nature gifted us with a quality called EGO which often get hurts for no reason. If you really want to do some good to him, why do you want everybody to know about it. The person who gets benefited will always be ready to mention your name if he is genuine.
So Friends, be bold and courage to raise your voice at the mistakes of your friends, provide them with the suggestions to correct them and help them grow. Do not support them or over look them as it causes a great harm to them and in that case you are not a friend of him. Do not be afraid of losing his/her friendship in doing so. Let them go away, if he understands what you have done he will come back to you one day for sure. Else, you do not need to have such friends in life.
But do not complain or criticize or talk at the back of your friends unnecessarily or to make them bad in front of others. No friend is going to tolerate you. If you come across such people in life stay away from them immediately. In the present society staying away from such kind of people is far better than, living with them and try changing them.
Friends we are the ones who our friends would like to share everything and give importance more than parents. Try to keep the value by being genuine and supportive. Let us keep up the value of this relation pure forever. Be careful in choosing friends, because you will be judged based on the nature of the friends you have.
On the eve of friendship day, I thank each and every friend of mine who were/are/will be there for me in my good times and bad times. Also I specially thank my friends who criticized me and spoke at the back of me because of which I got a chance to constantly improve myself and attain mere perfection……
May god give us all the strength and courage to live a life of Dhamma to experience the real happiness.