Yesterday I said no five times and it felt really good. I decided to say no about a few things that I had suffered from the day before. I have had this summer a leg problem, and was praying intensely about how to make the right decision about my day and how to arrange it so I got the most work done, with the least sacrifice, and the MOST gain! I actually was able to reschedule several of my clients I see on other days and be just as effective at my work, by arranging other days I could see them during the week, but still manage my health and elf care. One of the things about having a leg problem, is that you never know how you will wake up the next day after a full day of movement.
I decided to save myself from lots of pain by resting my leg for a day and getting some of my paperwork completed. I created a new path, and it felt awesome. In the end it was a great choice, and I believe it really helped me to things about a few things:
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A. I decided that there is always a “good” solution to making sure you use your time effectively. That if we really seek for a way to address a problem and feel like we are running out of time, it’s just an illusion. many of us get caught up in the illusion of not having time. I believe if you often proclaim you don’t have time, you won’t have time. We have all the time we really need. have you ever noticed you were in a constant state of MORE, not realizing that where you are and what you have may just be ‘enough‘? We have have to consistently; however, make time for the things that are truly important in life. And sometimes that requires self-evaluation and taking inventory of our lives.
B. I decided that a really “awesome” decision will be made when you STOP, THINK and LISTEN to yourself to deliberately think through your thoughts and determine where you have the most resolve. If you don’t trust your thinking; however, you can become “motionless” and disillusioned when you attempt to make decisions, because you are making them more for others, than yourself.
C. I learned that saying “no” is needed and necessary in your life, sometimes and it’s really okay to take care of yourself. I am beginning to see “No” in different light. I was saying no long before my husband was saying no, yet when he began to say “no” to me, I was offended and would have an attitude! Yet I knew it was important for him to take care of himself, and I was feeling a bit ashamed, when I began to think about how I was keeping a double standard. Truly, it was not okay for me to say no, and not him!
D. I decided that taking care of my overall mental, spiritual emotional and physical health is more important than anything else. And if my life does not allow for it, then I need to really consider the details of my life that get in the way of those, and take inventory about whether I need them or I make more room for them, than necessary. Lately, I have cut a lot of TV out of my life. thought at first it would be very, very challenging and it as .. for about a week. Then I realized there are so man more things in life that are important, than a television show. I mean, really ? Quality time with my husband, working on my projects, my spiritual and devotional life that brings me life and spirit daily and infuses and allows me to have amazing strength. I began to become guilty that even considered watching so much television in my life before.
If you enjoyed reading this excerpt, please take the time to read the series: Completely Validated: A Compilation of Meditations & Readings on ‘Being Enough.’ , which will soon be an ebook series, coming soon, on Amazon. I am JennRene Owens, an author, photographer and life coach who likes to help people: “Life Their Best Lives with Calm.” Leave a message if you liked this post or contact me at jennrene.owens@icloud.com