The newest season of The Bachelorette started last week, and as usual, it had a twist. This time, the guys had to decide who would be this season’s Bachelorette. The first night, they came out of the limo and each introduced himself to the two contestants Kaitlyn and Britt. After introductions were completed, each went inside to wait until everyone had arrived. Then there was the (not so) usual cocktail party where the guys got to spend time with the two ladies to see who they felt the strongest connection with. Of course, the women were sizing them up as well and it turned out one of them would be doing a rose ceremony that very night.
From the start, Britt seemed the most confident and sure of herself. She looked beautiful and many guys were overheard discussing her attractiveness—more it seemed then they were Kaitlyn. It also seemed that at least early on, most of the men approached Britt first when they exited their limos—telling her how beautiful she looked and how happy they were to see/meet her. Several times, Kaitlyn could be heard whispering about how awkward she felt and how it seemed many of the guys were more physically attracted to Britt. It was the impression I think viewers got as well.
Then the tide turned a bit, and a number of guys burst out of the limo and went to Kaitlyn, professing their interest and attraction. Britt pouted a bit, mumbling her surprise at the turn of events.
Then the party began. There was the very drunk guy who had to be asked to leave due to his behavior. There was also the very sure of himself guy, the guy who felt that he was better than the rest, the ones who were lobbying hard for one girl or the other—and soon, the night passed. The voting was announced and the men trickled into a back room to vote for their favorite—often a bit drunk, but most sure of their decision. For viewers, it was too hard to tell. Kaitlyn talked about how much she wanted to be The Bachelorette and even commented about getting a number or two of guys she was impressed with, just in case she had to leave.
So imagine the surprises all around when Kaitlyn was chosen, according to Chris, it was close, but Kaitlyn came out on top. Britt was shocked and Kaitlyn very happy for her but concerned about Britt.
Now if you are wondering why Kaitlyn over Britt, the clues are in this blog, in what various guys said and in the behavior of the two women throughout the night. Kaitlyn was humble right from the start while Britt just assumed she was the fairest of them all. The guys who wanted Britt focused on her looks, her smile, and her openness. They were very into her in a physical way and made no secret of it. The guys who wanted Kaitlyn used descriptives like, “down to earth,” “warm and easy to be around,” “great sense of humor,” “easy to talk to,” etc., etc. In other words, Britt won the looks category, which Kaitlyn won the overall cool woman category. Which one would you have rather won?
Kaitlyn’s win also speaks to that myth that all guys are just into looks. Apparently not. These guys were given the choice and looks did not win out. Now Kaitlyn is an attractive young woman with a great build, etc. But she also has this energy and sense of humor that are pretty irresistible.
So ladies please keep this in mind that next time you are heading out for a night with friends or a first date. Guys do care about what you look like—but that isn’t what holds their interest and keeps them coming back for more. Just watch this season of The Bachelorette and see what I mean.