Many Guys wonder if they should reunite with their ex girlfriends after a breakup or not. It is a challenging situation when you feel that you cannot live without her or if your life feels incomplete in her absence.
However, this is not an impossible challenge. This is something that can be done but it requires a lot of thought and introspection about the state of affairs. If you consider reuniting with your ex girlfriend, you should first ensure it is worth it.
There are a number of things you should put into consideration if you are considering getting back with your ex girlfriend.
- The first question to ask yourself is what caused the break up. If you were the cause of the break up, you should closely look at what you did.
- Determine if it was caused by your selfishness but remember this might be quite hard to do.
- Have a look at the actions that you took and determine if they were those of a selfish person.
- You should also determine if the desire to make up with your ex girlfriend is a
result of selfish thinking.
Before trying to make up with your ex girlfriend, you should determine if the relationship is mutually beneficial or it has a limited chance of succeeding.
In cases where you just want to get her back so as to fill an empty space in your heart and life, then this might not be a good idea. You might have to accept the cost of your self-centered actions.
Do not expect the girl to take you back with open arms. Besides, if the make up is not good for the two of you, it may bring negative results.
On the other hand, if your break up was caused by her selfishness, you should not be too fast to believe that she will change or has changed. You should closely look at her actions. In case you realize a genuine willingness to change and remorse, then you could give it a chance.
You should ask if she is going to do it again. If she acts selfishly in a manner that is destructive to you and your relationship, then do not consider getting back together. However, if you have a good reason to believe that the action that caused your break up will be repeated, then maybe it is worth getting back with your ex girlfriend. Before getting back with her, you should be sure that she is done with looking out for her self interests and is now interested in what is beneficial to the two of you.
Whether the break up was as a result of her selfishness or yours, or even both, you must be sure that you both can act in a manner that is not harmful to each other before getting back together. If either of you is self-regarding the relationship cannot be expected to go far. However, if you are absolutely certain that you are both done with being selfish and can be focused on making the relationship work, then getting back with your ex might be a good thing.