Hey There,
It seems that everyones been talking about fat and skinny shaming, but thats not why I decided to write this post. It’s been inspired by a conversation I had in work, I have had many similar conversations, but for some reason that day, this time, it hit a particular spot and I felt the need to just put it out there on my blog and kind of give myself a little self confidence shake, and hopefully at the same time, give anyone reading this one….
Working in the Beauty industry, I come across women everyday who are unhappy with their body and their skin. And its my job to give them advice, and treatments which should leave them feeling a happier and more confident.
In my experience pretty much 90% of women, have the same body worries. We all know that one woman who appears to beam with confidence, but I’m sure she probably still asks her Beauty Therapist about cellulite or how to get her skin more flawless. If I asked you now to draw a stick man of yourself, and circle the areas you would like to change, I guarantee most of you will say thighs, and stomach, with a few boobs and arms, and probably a few of you would just circle the whole bloody stick man, (I know on some days, I would).
My weight gain has definitely influenced my confidence, and I think blogging has affected my confidence both negatively and positively. It has forced me to be more open and take more photos of myself, but through that I also critique myself more and focus on the ‘concerns’, do I look fat in this? Does my nose look wierd? And so on. Plus I am awful at taking compliments.
I’m not saying I’m just going to stop dieting and be #Bodyconfident, as that would be a lie. I still aim to get back into those size 10 jeans, and feeling more like ‘me’ again. Plus its a health issue now. But I feel like if we all have the same worries, why do we beat ourselves up so much about it. Why do we worry about our thighs? Is it just because we are told there is a ‘perfect’ size thigh to have, or your stomach has to be a washboard? Or do we as women encourage this behaviour?
Sometimes self confidence isn’t even a physical thing, some people lack confidence because they feel they should be a certain way, or like certain things, when actually being themselves would bring them the most happiness. What I would love to see, is more people talking about what they ‘love’ about themselves. I kind of needed to write this post, just to vent and give myself a reality check. But what I would love to see, is us giving ourselves more compliments! Lets just tweet what we love about ourselves, whether its general or on that particular day with the #Loveyourself, or even just tweet a little self confidence boost you’ve had that day.
My plan is to tweet something positive about myself every day over the next five days, using the #Loveyourself. I would love it if you would join in!
Lots of love,
KBxx