It may be suprising to note that two people I mention frequently in this blog have never actually met. Orion lives a few blocks away from me, whilst ElkFeather is a few hours journey away. They have much in common, and yet are very different beings. They are close in age, have a background in energy work, experience with psychadelics and even listen to the same music. ElkFeather is, as his name would imply, a creature of the forest and fauna and earth. Orion has more of that vibe like he’s appeared here from another dimension or planet.
They are two of my best friends, confidents, and flovers. I trust them both implicitly, and find myself able to express my thoughts freely and openly when I am in conversation with them.
Well, after planning a weekend getaway to visit the forest- to recharge my batteries, and see ElkFeather- he sent me a message that he was coming to the city for a couple of days. There was an event he was going to do some work at, and it so happened it was an event I had thought of going to. ElkFeather said he could probably get free tickets; I knew Orion would be interested, as would another woman he has been seeing, and thus, the plans were set in motion for these metamours to meet.
To say I was nervous about this meeting would be an understatement. I adore both these men and learn so much when I spend time with either of them. Whilst I’m not currently sexual with either of them, there’s a deep intimate bond that has formed through some intense and beautiful sexual experiences. When two people have similarities, you know they’ll either like one another- or not. My fear was that an element of ‘alpha -male competitiveness’ (something I grew to be nervous of in my marriage when Finn would bristle up like a threatened porcupine if I appeared to be flirting with another guy) could rear up and lead to disaster.
Of course, that conditioned reaction completely ignored the fact that neither Orion nor ElkFeather are anything like the typical ‘alpha-male’ stereotype. They are two of the kindest, gentlest, most open and loving people I have ever had the honor to know.
The plan was that ElkFeather would find us there. Orion, C (Orion’s ‘friendimate’) and I all went to the event- an exhibition- and thoroughly enjoyed ourselves. There was much to see and do, though I kept an eye out for ElkFeather. The evening drew on and I could see Orion and C getting tired. Was this attempt to meet going to end in dismal failure? I felt a pang of anxiety, remembering a couple of previous times I had hoped they might meet.
“Look for a guy with an awesome hippie hat”, I told them, “I’m going to see if I can find him”.
ElkFeather’s phone was out of battery. I wandered the exhibition hall on instinct alone, feeling that he was probably doing the same thing. There was this sense we were just missing one another, weaving through opposite sides of the room. After half and hour, I gave up. I returned to Orion and C. And as I was a few feet away from them, much to my amusement and amazement, I saw Orion talking with ElkFeather! Recognizing the ‘awesome hippie hat’, Orion had taken a gamble that this was him, and they’d met and introduced themselves to eachother without me even having to be there, just moments before I returned.
Phew! Metameet achieved!
The four of us went for a walk and found a late night gelato cafe. The conversations we had were great. I sat there in absolute glee, watching these two men engage in conversation about the nature of the cosmos, the human body, health, sex, and the mechanics of how to fly. There were even a couple of moments they came close to finishing one another’s sentences.
How on earth do I convey the happiness it gave me to see them connecting? I’ve had other lovers/flovers/exes meet one another before, yes. And I always have derived great joy from introducing incredibly like minded friends to one another. Maybe it’s the combination of the two phenomena happening simultaneously? Is there a word for this yet in the poly lexicon? All I know is, I was on a total oxytocin high and I don’t mind confessing I was just a little turned on by the excitement of the conversation that night.
There’s a feeling of effortlessness around that whole evening. It all just flowed the right way. And, whilst I know that in the big wide poly world, not all meta meetings or meta relationships go as smoothly, I feel I gotta be doing something right to have such a great network of friends and lovers around me. Yay me.